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If you were suddenly single, can you imagine who you would date?

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GretaWolfcastle Tue 18-Feb-14 14:03:17

lol at " not widowed h fucked o ff' i DO HOP you say that to people! grin

also lol at cant spell

No I meant that a dying h might see that there is a connection with someone else and say " well of course Algernon will take care of you" or whatever

LettertoHermioneGranger Tue 18-Feb-14 13:16:33

I'm suddenly single. Dating though. Ugh. Blergh. Please no. Marriage and kids being part of my hopes, I'll have to eventually, but I wish I could skip the dating part and go right to the committed relationship where you know everything about your partner and don't care when/how they see you naked.

If there are any blokes I might shag well, that wasn't exactly the question.

Twinklestein Tue 18-Feb-14 13:03:05

Yes, Thom Evans. My husband would say Scarlett Johansson...

KurriKurri Tue 18-Feb-14 12:52:48

I'm suddenly single after 31 years of marriage (not widowed, H fucked off). I can't imagine dating again - in the first place I doubt I could trust any man however nice he seemed, and secondly I don't think I could bear to go through all that getting to know someone so you feel totally relaxed and at ease with them.
I also think I have a much lower bullshit threshold after my marriage break-up, so I doubt anyone would want a date with me - I'd be far to intolerant of anything that reminded me even slightly of XH grin

I don't want to be celibate, I just don't want to have a 'relationship' IYSWIM

If dh was to shuffle off this mortal coil suddenly or leave mehmm there is not a chance in hell that I'll get involved with another man.

Christ on a bike, no way could I be bothered with the hassle of dating.

I'm very happy with my own company.

LyndaCartersBigPants Tue 18-Feb-14 11:54:32

I 'practised' dating on a single dad friend who had supported me through the tough times with XH. I had tried setting him up with a friend of a friend as he was a lovely bloke, but that didn't work out and by the time I left XH he was still single so I had a crack at him myself!

He was totally wrong for me, but it seemed a safe way to dip my toe in the water after 15 years.

The pool of available single dads at our school seems limited and I work at home so no other real way to meet men, so I moved onto OD, which wasn't as bad as people seem to think.

Had a few dates from PoF, made a new friend (neighbour I bumped into on Match!) and noticed that a tasty single school dad I may have set my sights on had such a wanky OD profile that I had a lucky escape by noticing him on there!

Met my absolute soul-mate on there after a couple of months and it scares me to think that there is no other way we would have bumped into each other as, although we live reasonably close and have lots in common, our paths would never have crossed without OD.

aziraphale Tue 18-Feb-14 10:49:09

I've been single for over a year now since splitting with abusive exp, raising (and giving birth to) my son on my own - the thought of dating terrifies me. I'm far from ready for all that.

Also I looked on Zoosk and no-one can spell.

Offred Tue 18-Feb-14 10:13:04

I know that people with long term terminally ill partners often are almost "given permission' tacitly by their partners to marry another friend

You mean people are passed as property through a living will? confused

No wonder things are all wrong with saatchi and nigella's relationship! Why would you allow yourself to be bequeathed to your husband's mate? shock

I'm currently probably in the suddenly single situation as I left a marriage last year and have quite a casual boyfriend. I was suddenly single, I've started dating a friend because I really like him. I have no wish to spend anymore time with him than I do (two nights a week), I don't think I will ever want to live together.

I don't do casual sex (personal choice, nothing against people who do) and I like the regular sex and the mental connection we have. Have no wish at all to be trapped by a serious relationship ever again really, want to retain my independence and space.

BeCool Tue 18-Feb-14 10:01:45

I have been single for 14 months now. I'm just starting to recognise the odd flicker of attraction now and again.

The thought of online dating fills me with horror and I can't imagine I would do it. Luckily I'm quite happy being single.

Oh god no. No time right now to be dating! I do know what you mean, though. Have had a sort of back of the mind idea in the past. Not with DH though.

MrsDavidBowie Tue 18-Feb-14 09:18:18

I could not be arsed.
Love my own company.

DrNick Tue 18-Feb-14 09:17:13

Grace - that was kind of the situation with nigella wasn't it?

DrNick Tue 18-Feb-14 09:16:45

So. In all. I can't imagine where I would find a normal man.

DarlingGrace Tue 18-Feb-14 09:13:25

DrNick that's quite common, I know several people who this has happened to.

DrNick Tue 18-Feb-14 09:05:26

lol
ouchy
I know that people with long term terminally ill partners often are almost "given permission' tacitly by their partners to marry another friend ( this obv more common with older people where there are more widow/ers around

TinselTownley Tue 18-Feb-14 09:03:42

I am suddenly single and I'd rather pull my eyelashes out one by one than date anyone. And pluck my bikini line before rubbing it with vinegar.

DrNick Tue 18-Feb-14 09:01:10

( obv they might be lovely etc but if that is their BEST photo..)

DrNick Tue 18-Feb-14 09:00:43

is there an old boyfriend still around and single?
Is there a sexy dad at the school date mourning for you?

or is the very thought horrendous? ( sucking your stomach in etc)

I say this as I looked at the Times Encounters in a bored moment (marriage perfectly lovely here luckily) and GOD some are odd looking.

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