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I did this before but let's do it again today

(158 Posts)
Ledkr Wed 12-Feb-14 08:55:05

Things you have done or achieved since a break up to inspire anyone in a painful place.
Ill start.

Went on holiday abroad with just my dc,
Danced on a beach till dawn in Ibiza.
Lost three stone.
Had long dark hair cut into a blonde bob.
Had a lot of sex.
Reconnected with or made loads of lovely friends.
Drank beef in the bath.
Had weetabix for tea.
Went to lots of festivals with or without dc.
Laughed and laughed.
Traded in the family saloon for a golf convertible.
Got much closer to my children.

I could go on.
Share your stories to help others see there is life after heartbreak.

Ledkr Thu 20-Feb-14 20:38:57

I've been out for the day with dh and the dds.
It was a lovely day, we shared the preparation and driving.
We shared the grotty jobs like toilet runs and nose wiping.
He did not kick off because we got muddy.
He was not in a rush to get back so he could go out with his mates or see his girlfriend.
When OUR toddler played up in the cinema he helped and offered to go out with her then thanked me later for doing it.
We laughed and I didn't feel as if he was marking time, he was genuinely enjoying being with us.
We stopped for take away without him moaning about the cost then we unpacked bags and sorted kids together rather than being left to do it alone.

God I love that man and my oh so normal life smile

enlightenmequick Thu 20-Feb-14 21:05:33

I was thoroughly enjoying this thread until beachside popped up. Jeez.

If your at a party beachside and a group starts to laugh, do you go over and remind them that children are dying in Africa, or women are being killed in war zones?

Anyway.......

I lost a ton of weight after I left my violent ex. (Which was mostly down to the fact that my nervous disposition -acquired a stutter, gave minimal eye contact, and got the shakes when meeting anyone new) had given me irritable bowel syndrome.

I danced around the house rather drunk, the 1st night I got my home back (had to flee with dd and 1 bag, 8 months previously)

I went back to University (without him) and got my PGCE.

Earned double what I had previously

Made some new friends.

Danced a hell of a lot grin even in the kitchen with dd

Had a fling with a toyboy

Had my one and only ons with a absolute hunk!

Had great holidays (had none with ex, in 9 years)

Swam with dolphins, snorkelled with manatees and hugged a sealion

Drove a speedboat and a dunebuggy

Rode a camel

And still have a million other things to try and fit in between being capable and non capable!

But my greatest achievement isn't all the things I've done, it's the change in me.

enlightenmequick Thu 20-Feb-14 21:06:16

*you're

captainmummy Thu 20-Feb-14 21:57:19

Enlightenme - that's fab! Well done you. grin

Overit - sad what a terrible experience.Bastard.

overitalready Fri 21-Feb-14 08:59:25

Bastard he was. However ive passed my driving test now so if I see him I can always just run him over wink

hoppityskip Wed 05-Mar-14 20:26:54

I've now been separated for 9 months and in that time I have:
Redecorated my bedroom (immediately!)
Got a promotion
Realised how amazing my female friends are and had lots of mid week drinking sessions putting the world to rights
Went on hol solo to dubai to see my friend who lives there
Sold the house and bought my own
Booked a hol for me and DD
Started online dating
Had sex with someone other than my husband!
Interestingly also seem to have more money to spend on myself than I ever did before!
Lost weight
Got fit

Thanks for this thread, was having a period of feeling crap and this has made me realise that I've actually done quite a lot in 9 months!

CurtWild Wed 05-Mar-14 20:56:46

It's only been ten days so mine's not as exciting..yet!
Moved back close to my family
Regained control of finances
Redecorated every room instead of the dreaded magnolia!
Felt more relaxed and calmer
DC's happier
Laughed more
Cried less
Eaten lots of cake
Made a lot of noise with DC's (he hated noise)
Changed tv channels
Turned the fire up
Ignored phone calls and questions regarding reconciliation
Remembered I'm actually quite fun and outgoing and not at all boring, as he had me believing
Discovered people actually don't hate me, something else he had me almost convinced of.

This is a lovely thread! I hope to add more thrilling things to this list as time goes on..I'm certainly looking forward to the nicer men and sizzling sex some of you have had..it's been a while!

savemefromrickets Thu 06-Mar-14 17:29:57

Picked a new car
Went to the cash point knowing roughly how much money was left and not having a nasty shock
Realised I can live on my wages
Got a better job
Had books and toys out
Picked a lovely new DP
Had the sex I wanted to have
Smiled a lot

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