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To want to pack up and leave everything and everyone behind

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lifeforsale Mon 10-Feb-14 11:42:41

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flippinada Mon 10-Feb-14 18:58:09

Well, he has your details now, doesn't he? When was the last time he saw his children, or made arrangements to see them?

There is your answer.

OTOH if you absolutely don't want to cut contact then direct the emails into a folder which you or a trusted third party only check occasionally. Respond only to emails which are about contact or arranging contact. You aren't required to read him going on about whatever he does.

If he contacts you and says he is suicidal and threatens to carry it out, and you know where he is, call the police/ambulance.

I'm wondering if there's something else going on for him to have such a hold over you, as there's nothing in the OP that suggests he's anything other than a whiney PITA. Obviously you don't need to answer me but if there is (such as DV) then maybe worth involving the police and/or speak to WA for advice.

Best of luck - you don't need to live your life feeling downtrodden by this when it could easily be resolved.

lifeforsale Mon 10-Feb-14 19:12:23

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flippinada Mon 10-Feb-14 19:19:15

In that case I would definitely speak to WA for advice and/or the police.

I can entirely understand why you be fearful of him when there is DV/EA involved, I have been there.

flippinada Mon 10-Feb-14 19:21:11

Also, it may be worth asking MNHQ if you can get this moved to Relationships (although that's up to you) as there are a lot of experienced posters on there who have been there too and can help out.

lifeforsale Mon 10-Feb-14 19:33:21

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flippinada Mon 10-Feb-14 19:45:35

Entirely understandable. Glad you've got in touch with WA. It often feels like these awful men are omnipotent...they aren't.

DawnMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 10-Feb-14 20:58:46

Hi all,

We'll shortly be moving this thread to our Relationships topic, at the OP's request. Thanks to everyone who has contributed so far.

flippinada Mon 10-Feb-14 21:24:51

Good luck life - I'll keep an eye out. Think of this thread as being the first step towards getting out from under the thumb smile.

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