So fed up. Just lately everytime I speak DP either laughs at me or takes the piss with some stupid comment. I can take a joke as much as the next person but it's getting to the point where I just don't want to speak through fear of ridicule. One example was the other night, Reeves and Mortimer comedy was on - I noticed one of them was mouthing the words as the other one spoke - I said to DP "hey if you look, you can see him mouthing the lines!" DP raised an eyebrow and said "I wouldn't know, I'm busy actually ... you know ... watching the program." Why the sarcasm? before he would have started looking for it and either agreed or disagreed but now it's just a load of sarcasm I get like I'm stupid or irritating.
We've recently become engaged and are planning to marry next July. We've chosen a venue and due to it being a busy time of year we'll need to lay a deposit on soon. So earlier I said to DP "I was thinking, after we pay the deposit for the wedding, do you think we should carry on paying the balance to them directly or just save the money up in the bank and pay it all off together next year?" he burst out laughing 
he said "obviously" we'd save the money in bank and in future can I think about what I want to say and think if it's actually worth asking him about and if it's something stupid, just keep it to myself!!! 
Then - tonight his teenage kids are here - Now I'm used to him being a little off with me when the kids are here but tonight he's really upset me. Firstly he leaves me sat alone in the dining room eating my dinner whilst he goes off to watch TV and eat with his son (even though we supposedly have a rule about food in the living room) and then tonight I asked him if we were watching a movie tonight (we normally do on a saturday night). He says stroppily "yep." I ask what movie he's thinking of putting on and he snaps "dunno. can't magic one can I".
Any need??? I said I was sick of him snapping at me and being horrible so now he's not talking to me. Him and DSS are sat in the living room watching a movie and I'm sat in the dining room on my own again. feel like just going to bed :(
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Why does DP have such an attitude with me all the time??
hateweekends · 08/02/2014 19:46
He normally tries to start an argument on a friday - so when his kids come on a saturday we're barely talking. He denies this but it seems to be the case. No idea why.
Another example I've just remembered from today - ever since we've moved in together we end up in the overdraft around 2 weeks before pay day. Last month we were over £600 in the overdraft - this month it's looking like it will be around £400 in the overdraft.
He's always saying he's worried about money.
So whilst he was out today I added up all our income for next month, all the outgoings etc and ended up with a spreadsheet saying we should have £700 LEFT at the end of the month. So when he got home I deliberated over it for a bit because as I've said, I'm scared to open my gob lately but eventually I said "you know, I've worked this out and according to my calculations we should be up £700 next month if we're careful with money." So he started smirking and said "oo my calculations!! according to my calculations!!" etc etc 
once he'd got over my choice of words he said "so basically I just carry on exactly how I am then because it's not my fault we over spend?" There is just no talking to him.
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