When I was 15 I was raped by my abusive boyfriend and fell pg. I didn't press charges and have no interest in doing so that's not what this thread is about. But when I told my mum she refused to support me saying I couldn't possibly love a baby from such a abusive relationship and forced me to get a termination.
She took me to a Marie stopes clinic and sent me in alone after taking the first tablet I broke down in tears saying I wanted to make myself be sick and didn't want to take the second tablet. I remember they said I had no choice now that I had to take it. So I did.
Afterwords I was hemmoragging (sp) I knew it but I wanted to die so I hid it and went to sleep. My mother called upstairs to ask me to look after my sister while she went next door. When she did I began to feel urges to push I thought I was giving birth so I want to the toilet and saw something protruding from my vagina. I was happy I though I was further gone and was about to meet my baby.
So I hopped next door and told my mum she rushed me to hospital by which time my trousers were soaked through with blood and I was rushed straight in.
The gyne examined me and informed me I had had a prolapsed womb as a result of the hemmorage and some pieces being stuck.
At which point I vomited and was admitted to hospital for a month I had barely any visitors and I was placed right next to the postnatal ward so I could hear all the babies crying.
I also lied to everyone and said I miscarried as I felt so guilty seeing all the women who had miscarried their babies. I was told I'd have to have a d and c for retained products but luckily it wasn't necessary in the end. I was in physical agony for the whole month.
When I was released I went to see a friends mum who knew of the termination and had just had a baby when I held the baby I started sobbing and she took the baby and held me till I stopped. After this I was given a year therapy but ten years on and three dc later and my arms still feel empty and I'm still upset and effected by this memory. Well done if you got this far how do I fill this gap?
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Cant get over a termination. Trigger warning.
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selfdestructivelady · 22/01/2014 09:54
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