Sorry if this doesn't make any sense, but really need advice and MNers seem so wise, I was hoping someone may be able to help.
Been together for 6 years, married for 4 years, DS 15 months. Husband never been one for doing stuff around the house or helping with DS. basically he works full time and plays on his games console at home. I work full time, do all household chores and take care of DS whenever I'm not working.
20th dec husband out of the blue announced he didn't love me any more and had packed a bag with all his important documents and had it hidden at his place of work. He stated he hadn't loved me for some time but in his words "had been allowed to coast" so had never left before. After a long discussion he stayed over Christmas but was working a lot so we didn't see each other much. Then on 28th December I'd arranged for him to speak to a friends husband at a local pub as he doesn't really have friends of his own, and he didn't come home, I woke up at 2am to find he hadn't returned. I rang his phone and he didn't answer and messaged me that he didn't want to talk to me but was safe. The next day he came to the house collected his car and some belongings. He states he stayed at a male friends from work. He stayed there for the next week, then went to his parents for a week for some "space". All this time leaving me with a 15 month toddler and a full time job, house and all stresses to deal with. I kept going for my son. He announced he was looking at flats to live away from the family home but at the same time asked me to go to relate which I did.we went to relate and they suggested him moving back if he wanted to work on things which he stated he did. So he's been back home a week today. In that time he has not taken care of DS at all. Has gone to work and played on his games console. Last night I asked to speak to him explaining I didn't feel this was working...... We are basically living like strangers. He's staying in the spare room and will say bye to DS on way to work but not speak to me. I feel like I can't do anything right as whatever I do will be reflected to be awful eg.... If I offer to make a drink..... I'm controlling when he drinks...... If I don't make one..... I'm being moody and spiteful. I can't win. Our next session is Thursday. But he says we can't talk about things between relate sessions as he doesn't want to and this is going to be a long and painful road.....Which makes me feel like every day I'm going to have to wake up hurting like I am, spend all day hurting and go to sleep crying.... I'm not sure how much more of this I can take?
Sorry for going on. Any advice would be so so appreciated x
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Feeling completely lost......
Ithurtssomuch · 21/01/2014 06:02
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