Have name changed to protect the (not so) innocent!!
Background info,
Been with my boyfriend nearly a year, and we are really happy. We don't live together.
He lives in a bit of a bachelor type pad in the middle of town. Because of this, when we go out in big groups people that live further out are always told they can stay over at the end of the night if need be, either on floor or sofas. Just a place to crash really.
Month or so ago, I was out with my friends, and he was out with work colleagues. We were texting a bit through the evening and he text me to say he was on his way home, and had "J" with him as she was too drunk to get across town alone, on buses etc. he said he would text when he was in (always has done without fail). "J" is a girl, I have met several times, she often gets pretty drunk and crashes at my BF or someone elses place as its safer than letting her travel a long way home alone.
Anyway, he never text to say he got home. I just presumed he'd crashed out drunk. Absolutely no problem at all in my opinion.
The next day we were out for dinner alone. I ribbed him a bit for not texting to say he was in.....I did it purely in jest, expecting him to say something like "god, I was hammered, just fell straight to sleep". But instead, he lied (pretty obviously) and said his battery died. When I pointed out he does own a charger....he stammered a bit and said he was just too drunk and fell asleep. I asked why his immediate reaction was to lie, he said he panicked and thought I'd be mad. I told him to not be ridiculous, I wouldn't be mad about that, but basically don't fucking lie!!
Anyway, last night, there was a bit of lovey dovey pillow chat.....and he said he had to get something off his chest, and that "J" had come onto him, and that was why he went to lie, he just panicked and thought I'd jump to conclusions. Apparently he told her no....set her up with a duvet on the sofa and went to bed.
He said its been eating at him that he wasn't 100% truthful, doesn't want anyone but me, and that totally nothing happened.
I checked his messages from her....she says thanks for letting me stay, I've just got home, he said no worries, glad you got home okay....and then she says "yep, sorry I was pretty horrendous". Apparently she left when he was still in bed.
I'm pretty sure I believe him, teeny bit uneasy though.
Does it sound legit?
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Please can you either put my mind at ease, or tell me if I should be worrying??
AlwaysOverthinkingAgain · 20/01/2014 14:59
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