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Too much of an age gap?

(133 Posts)
fluffyduckie Thu 16-Jan-14 19:04:17

So it isn't really an issue as it is just a crush but do you think a 20ish year age gap is too much?

neiljames77 Tue 21-Jan-14 22:04:22

That man you describe Maeve sounds like he's break dancing. What does it mean if he does a moonwalk?

JoyceDivision Tue 21-Jan-14 22:04:34

ooh, please comeback and let us know if your friend speaks to him and tell us how it goes!

Dh is 14 year older than me, he looked young for his age when we met, after marrying me he has aged rapidly grin

He is calm, intelligent, considerate, humourous... I would like to say all I havegoing for me is my trophy wife good looks but since I look like a scruff I don't even have that... there were differences wghen we met and there are now, but a lot of friends have said despite those we've aleays seemed well matched..

MaeveWest Tue 21-Jan-14 22:07:49

yeh I'm not sure I understand what a shrug followed by a forward roll is. confused A demonstration would have been nice.

My eyes will be out on sticks tomorrow.

YankeeMum8 Tue 21-Jan-14 23:14:20

Not necessarily. I have family members where female spouse is in her 80's and male spouse is in his 60's. He takes very good care of her...only downfall is sex. He needs it, she doesn't or can't (medical issues). But when he was 30 and she was 50 it was no problem whatsoever. They have been married 35 years. I must say though one does end playing nursemaid, though that can happen at any age. If they really love each other it can be worked through.

fluffyduckie Wed 22-Jan-14 07:07:07

Will update!

Hope I bump into him today while I am feeling brave! grin

Although I hope that 1) he can tell I am flirting and 2) that I can tell if he is interested.

Tydna Wed 22-Jan-14 11:54:11

My mums best friend married a man 20 years older than herself. My mum said it was all wonderfully glamorous when he wooed her in the 1970s.
He had a flash sports car and a luxuriant moustache. Apparently she was the envy of all her friends. My mum doesn't think they would be quite so envious these days as she is more his carer than his wife.
It's one of my mums repertoire of "warning stories" that she tells to my teenage dds.

Takingbackmonday Thu 30-Jan-14 14:01:31

Shite - The formula says I'm too young! Should I leave grin ?

purplebaubles Thu 30-Jan-14 14:12:29

DH is 14 yrs younger than me. We have two children. Blissfully happy.

TBH, in my situation, I would find it odd being married to someone 20 yrs older, as that's my parent's age! (so would feel creepy to me)

But I fully accept that some 40yrs olds would find my situation creepy!

Each to their own I say. We were both at the same life stage when we got got together (and I had no 'baggage' which helped enormously, we're doing things together for the first time)

I think it does help though that DH looks old for his age (early 30's), I look young (early 30's) so we do not look odd together iykwim. Most ppl are totally unaware that there is such an age gap. Although I do have a number of friends who are married to much older men, and then yes, the age gap is noticeable! (e g friend's husband is 60, his son is older than my husband!!!)

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