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The Dating Thread 68.

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Bant Mon 13-Jan-14 23:45:51

Support for everyone, dating online or in real life.

No judginess, no shoutiness. Nuff said.

MasterP0 Mon 13-Jan-14 23:48:26

Bant NO SHOUTINESS, WHY????

Bant Mon 13-Jan-14 23:51:40

Because it's a bit rude, master. And people on this thread are often upset and vulnerable and don't want to feel like they're being yelled at or told they're wrong. It's a support thread, not a parade ground.

MasterP0 Mon 13-Jan-14 23:53:36

Maybe they should get thick skin! It's an open forum, everyone expresses themselves differently.

lubeybooby Mon 13-Jan-14 23:53:59

Hello all not been here for a while. I started the original one having been single for ages and ages. Just checking in to see if the rules are still going and if any of the old crowd are about wink

Anyway for anyone who remembers me all is still amazingly lovely with Henry and still getting better all the time grin

nearlythere22 Mon 13-Jan-14 23:56:10

Sometimes we need shouted at!

If anyone remembers my dilemma with long distance guy - he's suggested getting somewhere to stay together in a very gentlemanly fashion. I have agreed.

MasterP0 Mon 13-Jan-14 23:57:34

booby I JUST LOVE a happy ending! How long have you been together? Where did you meet, as in website? YOU give me hope, THANKS!

lubeybooby Tue 14-Jan-14 00:02:38

I quit online dating... set it afire and ran screaming wink I had done it to death over a few years though and found only issues after issues, players, knobheads etc etc. So I gave it the swerve in order to get my confidence back.

Meanwhile back on the ranch while I was enjoying myself and had actually decided I didn't want a relationship, too busy, blah blah, one happened. Known in RL for a few years but nothing had really happened til we started seeing each other properly in May last year (apart from a quick fumble the year before) I think it was around dating thread 51/52 something like that grin

MasterP0 Tue 14-Jan-14 00:08:04

Ok now I'm depressed again hahahahaha.....but good for you! Great to always hear about success stories be it OD or RL.

MasterP0 Tue 14-Jan-14 00:10:21

Nearly EYES WIDE OPEN! Good luck, enjoy your weekend, make the most of it wink wink!!

lubeybooby Tue 14-Jan-14 00:15:12

aw, don't be depressed. I know a few who it did work well for. I reckon luck and timing have a lot to do with it though, just the same as RL dating/meeting people etc.

FloraSpreadableMacDonald Tue 14-Jan-14 00:20:35

I'm lost....thread 67 must have moved on quickly!

Bant Tue 14-Jan-14 00:27:02

It is an open forum, you're right master. But general etiquette says that if enough people ask you to stop being shouty or rude (or say disparaging comments about other posters, men in general or the disabled) then maybe you'd think about it rather than telling them to grow a thick skin

Flipper934 Tue 14-Jan-14 08:01:23

Master, I love your energy and enthusiasm, goodness knows you need a well stocked supply of those for OD. But, as an old thread contributor and long time lurker, I do agree with Bant (don't tell him).

I found the most helpful posts to be those which offered suggestions, you know, different ways of doing things, rather than those which just said that only a fool would do X or Y. That's not to say that I don't think posters should have opinions; again, some of the most helpful posters have been very forthright, but when a poster is very black and white, it makes the thread an uncomfortable place to bare your feelings.

MasterP0 Tue 14-Jan-14 08:04:56

Good morning Bant I say disparaging comments about the assholes who've broken our hearts/disappeared on us/lied/cheated etc.!

"Enough People" please refer me to those people?? If there truly are there, feel free to say on here or PM me.

brokenhearted55a Tue 14-Jan-14 08:54:14

Someone contacted me through eharmony and one of his first questions through guided communication was describe your parents relationship with each other. I told him it was none of his business. Was I too rude?

MasterP0 Tue 14-Jan-14 08:58:21

Flipper hiiiii, for the record I've not disrespected anyone by calling them a fool and saying "....,only a fool would do that..." Once again I have called the idiots some of us have had the misfortune of dating fools!

Yes I see things in black and white, others don't , did I attack anyone for having their own opinion, NO! EVERYONE on mumsnet should do what makes THEM happy, just because I have a strong opinion on something, and voice it, people can chose to ignore/act on it, I've continually maintained that it is YOUR choice.

Bant I stand by my grow a thick skin comment not everyone is going to like what I say, how I say it, you clearly don't, so just don't read my comments or just ignore. If you chose to report me for voicing MY opinion go for it!

Flipper934 Tue 14-Jan-14 09:00:31

No, not too rude, Broken, if that's how you feel. Personally, I believe that a person's experience of adult relationships growing up has a big impact on them, so I find that an interesting question.

If you didn't like his questions, though, why did you bother replying to them at all?

MasterP0 Tue 14-Jan-14 09:02:52

Broken hahahaha, not at all. You share what YOU are comfortable in sharing. That guided communication is also very limited in the questions asked and answers given if I remember correctly.

dontcallmehon Tue 14-Jan-14 09:05:41

Definitely not too rude, broken

I like a bit of straight talking sometimes on this thread - I need it!

Geeky is here tonight.

10 days....

MasterP0 Tue 14-Jan-14 09:09:37

Dont YAY!! Have you sorted out your other outfits?? Packing for me is ALWAYS a nightmare, in typical female fashion I ALWAYS pack way too much, but I'd hate to be without something. May the force be with you re: packing.

About tonight, good luck, I hope you're both able to openly discuss and clear the air.

brokenhearted55a Tue 14-Jan-14 09:10:24

Fair enough flipper but my fathet was abusive, they divorced when I was 3. I barely had contact growing up.

If someone will judge me for that they can fuck off.

look how many people are leaving relationships due to abuse on these threads. How would any of them loke in 20-30 years time that a potential partner would hold it against their son or daughter who was innocent at the time and use it as a reason not to date or even meet them.

Bant Tue 14-Jan-14 09:11:54

Master - of course you have the right to talk however you want, to be as shouty as you want. I just think it's rude and makes the dating thread a less pleasant place to discuss things. It's like going to your favourite cafe for a chat with friends and finding some people sitting there yelling and flinging buns at each other.

And a few people have spoken to me to say the same, but I'm really not comfortable with giving out their details as private messages are just that.

Anyway, I'll just leave it. Good luck with everything.

MasterP0 Tue 14-Jan-14 09:26:26

Bant You think it's rude I think I'm honest and upfront. I'm baffled that you think I'm being rude?!?!?!?

You and those people of yours should stop being so overly sensitive and they should grow some FLIPPEN balls to speak up or go report me, I've done NOTHING WRONG!

Flipper ".....a persons experience of adult relationships growing up has a big impact on them......" sooooo VERY TRUE in MY case. My daddy was always so kind, loving, caring, generous, he would move heaven and earth for me, as a little girl I called him after school EVERY SINGLE day (divorced parents), he would visit me almost on a daily basis, weekends were our favourites, we had "our songs", I loved baking for him, he loved me unconditionally, warts and all and I know subconsciously I'm probably looking for that in a partner. YIKES!!!!!!!!!!

LiesDamnLiesandSoggybiscuits Tue 14-Jan-14 09:32:09

Enjoy your evening with Geeky don't! Ten days will fly by!!!

My this thread has moved quickly...I was with Flora last night, we were wandering blindly trying to catch up and not quite there yet but trying!

Nothing wrong with a bit of straight talking Master, I have received a couple of slaps on the wrist that were well deserved, message is always...you are the Prize and that's always good to remember. I am a bit of a no bull shit kind of girl and usually need telling straight. I appreciate everyone is different and that is why it is so good that this is an open forum and generally you will find someone that speaks your language- whatever that may be.

I have found everyone incredibly welcoming and pleased to help and offer support. Had I not dropped lucky would have been taking Bant up on his offer to have a butcher's at my profile! Everyone's tales good and bad and differing points of view, provide a well rounded look at OD and RL dating too for that matter and I am just glad to know that I am not alone and not crackers!

Hi to everyone I've not said Hi to before...my name is Lies and I'm a dateaholic....hopefully for not too much longer!! It's been good knowing reading people's successes, gives me hope after being single for more years than I care to admit!!!

Broken....WTF??? I'm with you, none of his bloody business!!!!

So last night was watching tv with Mr two hours..trying not to invest too soon and my phone beeped with a POF message. Hurt look..."I'm deleting my profile" he said. Thank you random POF dude for your timely conversation prompt. It was very clear that neither of us were seeing other people...erm - when? Was merely a loose end but glad it's been tied off!
Good Luck All!

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