My OH took a new job when our baby was just a few months old. The old job had a good wage but also a lengthy commute. The new job pays school leaver wage and was working in his friends shop. He assured me that a pay rise would be after 1 year and the job was secure.
11 months later he was made "redundant" from the new job. He is now unemployed and stays at home with our toddler. He is looking for a new career but nothing has come about yet.
I utterly resent him! I am forced to work 50+ hours in a very high stress job. I see my toddler for an hour a day at the maximum and have to work 7-10 days in a row for a day off. I was supposed to be signed off sick for stress and anxiety attacks but had to return to work instead.
The resentment stems from the fact that he has never financially supported me at all. We have always split 50/50 any outgoings. This was incredibly tough when I was on SMP for 9 months. Now he is on JSA I am expected to pay 100% of everything so that he has spending money... Despite that it is only just below the SMP rate, that I was expected to live off.
I just want to run away and live in a bubble with my amazing toddler who I miss like crazy. I hate my OH for taking him away from me.
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I Resent my SAHD
Changeynameyname · 12/01/2014 11:55
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