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i called dh a cunt

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untouchable Sun 12-Jan-14 01:29:06

So after being treated like shit being forced into celibacy for 7 years only to find out 2 weeks ago that he gets his jollies from on line porn I told him I thought he was a cunt. This is very bad as he doesn't like swearing, but you know what? He fucking deserved it. I am sick of feeling like a non woman and have had my self esteem eroded to nothing and tonight I stood up for myself and it feels great...even though I have cried buckets. It is tgr

untouchable Sun 12-Jan-14 14:43:38

Sorry Lying I didn't mean to make you feel bad it was my fault as I didn't actually say what led me to call him a cunt in the OP as I was feeling victorious and wasn't really talking about the bad stuff. I can see that it looked like I was just being mean. No need to delete. I was in a strange, powerful mood last night when I had reached my limit. smile

untouchable Sun 12-Jan-14 14:45:26

Trust me on this one estarone, he has called me worse things than cunt.

OxfordBags Sun 12-Jan-14 14:46:04

You don't forget how to treat someone in a loving way - well, not unless you're a cunt. Which he is. And not hitting someone is a given, it's not wonderful plus point - well, not unless you're such a cunt that there's nothing else to back yourself up with. Which he is.

What a cunt!

MinkBernardLundy Sun 12-Jan-14 14:56:34

oxford grin amen.

at least I don't hit you shock Wtaf. i hope he brings that up at relate. although I am not sure I would bother going Tbh

Does he know there are actual men out there who love their partners, have sex with them, respect them and help out AND manage not to hit them. Amazing huh.

untouchable Sun 12-Jan-14 15:17:41

Not sure you got enough 'cunts' in that post there Oxford grin

I think relate might be a good idea for me to be honest as I need some validation that how I feel is ok?. I worry though that what if they don't see his behaviour as being bad like I do and he just gets justified? I don't know what the counsellors are like, I don't know whether my reaction to porn is 'out of date'? He says everyone is doing it and certainly this is not the first relationship that has been ruined because of it. Maybe I need counselling to help my realise why I end up in long term relationships with men that are misogynist?

WaitingForMe Sun 12-Jan-14 15:37:42

Not everyone in mumsnet has the same opinion of porn but I think it's universally believed that anyone who uses it to the detriment of their relationship has a problem and their partner would be justified in leaving over it.

A counsellor shouldn't be interested in your views over the morals of porn, they should look at the impact if it on the relationship.

The everyone doing something excuse hasn't really impressed anyone since year 8 I don't think.

CogitoErgoSometimes Sun 12-Jan-14 15:42:18

Counsellors facilitate you expressing yourself so that you can answer your own questions rather than pass judgement on whether your opinion is right or wrong. Good ones anyway.

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