I am so ashamed I don't feel like I can talk to anyone about this. I have been married for 7 years to a really wonderful, kind and lovely man but since we had are ds 2 and half years ago; my dh flies into foul rages every month or so. He shouts at me (and sometimes wake me up to do this), hits things (not me), slams doors and screams. This usually happens when we haven't been getting enough sleep because of ds, or when we have to travel or he has some issues at work.
It happened on Thursday night. He was putting DS to bed and it wasn't going very well and after about an hour I heard DH running down the stairs swearing and DS crying. I went to see DH to ask him what was wrong to offer to take over bedtime and DH just started shouting at me telling me I was pressuring him and had pushed him too far. An hour earlier we had just finished dinner and were playing with our son, it felt like it came out of nowhere. After I had calmed down DS and he had gone to sleep, I tried to talk with DH again but he just shouted at me so I left the room. I cried myself to sleep in our bed and this just seems to infuriate DH. On Friday he emailed me to say how sorry he was and the he knows what he did was wrong and instinctively I want to forgive him. But I know DS must have heard what happened and that he shouldn't see his father behave this way but I don't know what to do, please help me.
I know the effect this type of behaviour can have on children - as my mother also used to have these type of angry rants (she throws things at my dad and would fly into unprovoked rages). it took me many years of adult life to realise that this was not my fault and I was not a bad person. How did I end up in this situation again...
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Coping with DH rages
FeMay30th · 12/01/2014 01:16
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