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Hiring male escort?

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Wolfinthewintertree Sat 04-Jan-14 19:25:44

blush

Hear me out before judging, I haven't had sex for five years and I'd really like to. Not loads, but I do feel quite 'up for it' when ovulating blush

There was a storyline on this on a TV box set I've been watching this Christmas and I thought it was nonsense at first but have done some research and it does seem I could 'hire' one for two hours for £60!

Terribly wrong or a good way of my needs being met?

Why hire? Honestly, there are many men about who would be just up for sex! There's such a bloody stigma about a woman approaching a bloke and saying they're not up for a relationship, just sex...
Don't waste your money. Or, give it to me and I'll find you a bloke! smile

gamerchick Sat 04-Jan-14 19:29:04

Get a rabbit instead if you just want sexual needs met. But it's up to you.

MaeveBehave Sat 04-Jan-14 19:29:31

U mean a gigolo. Escorts dont sleep with u do they?

I bet u can have "just sex" very easily. Its the sex and the rest that's hard to get.
With a gigilo u r only getting sex. Nothing real.
But just weughi g it up. Not judging! Just wondering if u have tried to pull! No shortage of men that want sex.

What if he showed up and he was a but sleazy or smug or orange or too waxed or something?

Rummikub Sat 04-Jan-14 19:30:28

Tinder?

Wolfinthewintertree Sat 04-Jan-14 19:30:42

Why hire?

All sorts of reasons. Discretion guaranteed. I can 'shop' for my 'type'. I'm the customer, and it becomes all about me grin I don't have to endure a nightclub (haven't been in one for around a decade, not my scene.) And, I chuck them out after two hours!

MaeveBehave Sat 04-Jan-14 19:32:54

Ps in five years ive had one short relationship so i do get it.

Just not into sex on its own tho. Feels pointless. If u emjoy it, u want it again, if u enjoy it u want to have more! THAT'S why i hate just-sex. Not moral judgement. At all!

gamerchick Sat 04-Jan-14 19:34:17

If you're looking to shop around then I would probably look into paying more than 30 quid an hour though.

Pan Sat 04-Jan-14 19:40:06

This is a very messy world to get into, for lots of reasons.

For a while was an 'escort's escort', ensuring they were safe, etc 'call in times', ensuring monies were paid. That insight indicated you have be quite 'hard' with excellent boundaries to derive any benefit.

As others have said, if it's only sex (and sex with an escort won't really be better than your av Joe) then there's lots and lots of reasonable men who would like some strings-free sex. And you don't have to deal with the payment thing which you may well judge yourself for in the future.
hth

Wolfinthewintertree Sat 04-Jan-14 19:42:22

Where would I find this man salivating for sex, though? confused

And the gorgeous fit ones are taken, IME. I'd be left with the overweight balding ones with halitosis!

Blushingm Sat 04-Jan-14 19:43:34

What is your opinion of a man going to a prostitute op? It's very much the same thing.......

I wouldn't judge you - if your single and want more than just flicking your own bean then go for it. At least you can say what you need/like and the guy would hopefully know what he's doing. You'd spend the same money on a night out hopeful to pull, you could get crap sex and then youd have to get rid of the guy. you'd run the risk of bumping into the guy when you're out and about too.

If you are absolutely sure you just want no strings sex without anything else then give it a go! Just be careful!

MrsBucketxx Sat 04-Jan-14 19:44:31

Get a rabbit or a fuck buddy. Lots of web sites out there for that. You really dont need to pay.

Rummikub Sat 04-Jan-14 19:44:59

Register on tinder. You look at photos, like, dislike, then meet up if you choose.

Wolfinthewintertree Sat 04-Jan-14 19:46:22

Have no problems with prostitution, as such, working on the assumption that the woman a) understands what she's getting into and b) is fully aware (ie not desperate due to drugs and so on) - I worked as an escort myself when younger so I know how it works - other side of the coin I suppose.

Male escorts is a world I don't know much about though.

Wolfinthewintertree Sat 04-Jan-14 19:46:57

I do NOT want a 'fuck buddy' hmm and I have a rabbit, cheers.

WhoNickedMyName Sat 04-Jan-14 19:48:00

Register on some free dating websites, make it clear you want no strings sex and hey presto, take your pick out of the hundreds of men that contact you.

Pan Sat 04-Jan-14 19:48:08

Where? Just about anywhere. Whenever you go out to a club/pub, supermarket, anywhere where you find men are. "hook up" sites, dating sites where you can subtly make an indication.

Being careful as a poss. goes with it obv.

Wolfinthewintertree Sat 04-Jan-14 19:52:32

Pan when is the last time you asked somebody for a shag in the supermarket? hmm FGS!

I would actually like a relationship but it isn't easy at my age, and I don't want to join some website for no strings sex. That would be men also looking for no strings sex - wanting something for them, I want this (if I do it) to be about me, the same sort of sex you might get in a loving relationship.

Perhaps I'm not explaining myself very well but another consideration is anonymity is very important to me as well.

Escort, ok you have to pay but it is:

Safe
About you
Pick and choose
No strings at all

Seems perfect, I just don't get why it isn't okay to pay for it?

Thetallesttower Sat 04-Jan-14 19:55:57

If you have been an escort yourself, presumably you have no moral objection to this, so why are you asking us if it ok? Your OP says is it 'terribly wrong'. Don't you know this after being one yourself?

Spottybra Sat 04-Jan-14 19:58:14

There are websites specifically for this, stuff like Craigslist and lookup I think they are called.

DH reveals too much about what some of his colleagues get up to working away.

Pan Sat 04-Jan-14 19:59:13

'the same sort of sex you might get in a loving relationship'. Really?

Supermarket? Never, but I 'picked' someone up in a supermarket years ago by admiring her shoes to begin with. If a man can do it, I'm sure a woman can.

good luck whatever you decide.

Spottybra Sat 04-Jan-14 19:59:59

Sorry, just saw your last post. But in a loving relationship it is about both of you.

Wolfinthewintertree Sat 04-Jan-14 20:00:06

I don't have any moral obj to being an escort, but there's a difference between being and buying grin

Plus male/female escorts are a different world, I don't know of any male escorts.

Wolfinthewintertree Sat 04-Jan-14 20:01:33

Yeah, but what I mean is that in a loving relationship you get to know what one another like over time.

ONS wouldn't do that. Now an escort is a type of ONS of course but is there for your own whims.

Possibly difficult to explain but I don't like the idea of a ONS - not at all!

WarmFuzzyFuture Sat 04-Jan-14 20:05:09

Well, the MN double standards continue in 2014. Imagine if a man posted a thread that he wanted to hire the services of a prostitute confused.

Seriously? I am horrified that even though you have been an escort you believe this is an acceptable avenue to satisfy you sexual needs.sad

I would go down the route of ''hook up'' sites. Let someone know where you are etc and get involved with real people and real life.

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