So I've been seeing someone for a little while. He's a single parent, so tends to be nights around his watching a film, some food, wine etc one his daughter has gone to sleep, unless she is with her mother and then we go out.
Sorry in advance if it's too much info, but we''ve had sex twice and a session before that which involved lots of kissing, touching etc but not penetrative sex. Each time has been wonderful, the sex is amazing and has been a session with lots of attention paid etc lasting a few hours.
Now I don't think he has any issue with this at all, but I'm overweight. Not grossly, but am a size 16-18. The first couple of times I kept some element of clothing on (perhaps as a comfort / safety thing??) However, last time we both ended up stripped completely, and whilst I loved the full skin contact, I was a bit self conscious at first.
I know the obvious thing to do is lose some weight, and I plan / want to anyway, but how can I feel less self conscious about it in the meantime?? He really does make me feel amazing, showers me and my.body with attention, several orgasms etc. I know it's not exactly a life stopping problem, but he's the first new person I've been with in quite some time.
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BradleyCoopersCurlyPerm · 03/01/2014 20:48
If you are having sex with him do you think you could just ask him? Talking is just another kind of intimacy after all.
Maybe 'I am a bit self conscious about my size, is it a problem for you?' I am sure he enjoys you the way you are and it won't be an issue for him, after all he was attracted to you as you are and clothes really aren't much of a disguise for a fuller figure! I'm sure he will do everything he can to reassure you. Most men don't go for size 8 women, no matter what the magazines say!
If he says he wants you to lose weight I would be a bit worried as it might indicate a controlling man, but if he asks if you want to for health reasons and offers to help you or keep you company in the gym then I would be overjoyed 
If it's your belly that bothers you then embark on some tummy toning and see how you go. Really pleased you've found somebody that's worth making the effort for
Best of luck and enjoy. Sex is a great form of exercise 
Erm, I doubt v much he's noticing that while he is going down on you
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OP, you sound lovely and your new man sounds very very into you! It all sounds really positive, now get leaping into bed with him!
manabouthtemaison
"who'd want sex with a stick insect ??? it'd be like shagging a fold up deck chair."
Don't you sound charming. First of all, women are not stick insects. Stick insects are, well, insects, so the whole penetration thing would be a bit trickly. Unless the man in question has a tiny, tiny penis? Possibly spent too much time shagging deck chairs to remember what a real naked lady looks like? And is it better to shag a fold up deck chair than a fixed one? I'm worried about the amount of research that has been carried out here..
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