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If your DP started a thread on MN about you...

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rpitchfo Fri 27-Dec-13 21:51:23

This section spends a lot of the time analyzing in varying degrees of detail the actions and motives of DPs.

Time for a little bit of introspection.

If your DP started a thread in MN relationships about you what would it look like?

headinhands Fri 27-Dec-13 22:07:37

AIBU to ask DW to Spend Less Time on Mumsnet.

meditrina Fri 27-Dec-13 22:13:16

Well, I think headinhands has summed it up all too accurately!

Otherwise, I would hope it might be :"I had a midlife crisis and was a total arse for several months. She had the patience to see the bigger picture and believed in me when I didn't believe in myself. Fortunately, I stopped short of the truly unforgivable. But what can I do now to show how grateful I am?"

[festive pigs flying emoticon]

FloWhite Fri 27-Dec-13 22:14:26

Could you give us an insight as to what your DP would say about you first?

Goandplay Fri 27-Dec-13 22:17:44

My DP is being unreasonable about the lack of clothes horse in the house and being sarcastic so I've called her an ugly, fat, saggy c@@t. AIBU?

Vivacia Fri 27-Dec-13 22:20:13

Might be worth looking at the OP's previous posts before deciding whether to reply to this thread.

FloWhite Fri 27-Dec-13 22:20:33

fgrin @Go

rpitchfo Fri 27-Dec-13 22:20:41

I'm still thinking about mine. I suppose a
bit of context would be we had a baby 7 months ago and I've read a lot on here about how often this completely changes the dynamics of a relationship. So I'm just trying to remain conscious of this fact and ensure i stay self aware of my own actions as we enter this new stage of our relationship. Not sure if I've summed this up right but it's something I've been thinking about a lot.

FloWhite Fri 27-Dec-13 22:21:15

Yeah, just did, Viv

meditrina Fri 27-Dec-13 22:37:35

A quick search shows that OP is a man, who has posted on a number of subjects over a couple of months.

Given the second post, I think my original second paragraph is irrelevant.

JumpingJackSprat Fri 27-Dec-13 23:10:20

What relevance is it if the op is a man?

tiamariaxxx Fri 27-Dec-13 23:13:47

I think if my hubby as to start a thread he would be complaining about my nagging and worrying about stupid things. Maybe im totally oblivious but i dont know what else he has to complain about with me haha

tiamariaxxx Fri 27-Dec-13 23:15:34

Eh just out of curiosity i didnt realise people could read other posters back threads, how could you do that? Just icase i ever fancy a nose

PrincessFlirtyPants Fri 27-Dec-13 23:19:47

Just search their name Tia

SantasPelvicFloor Fri 27-Dec-13 23:32:57

I have no idea why the OP is not allowed to ask the question Vivacia?
Your response seems extraordinary.

My DP would say My DP is too independent and holds me at arms length. She argues over who pays for everything (she wants to pay) and is determined to pay her share even though I'm in a much better position to do so than her. Why is that? Why won't she let me? And....How can I stop her being a workaholic?

(Actually writing this out has made me see I'm a leeetle obsessive about my independence)

ImaginativeNewName Fri 27-Dec-13 23:37:13

My dw asks that I occasionally come home from work and actually participate in family activities with my children / finish our building site of a house / have sex with her. Would I be unreasonable to ltb over her silly demands? Does she not understand that I am just finishing one last task that will take ten hours minutes and then I will definitely be leaving?

McPheelingUpSanta Fri 27-Dec-13 23:39:13

Mine did

He got flamed grin

<now ex>

Cleorapter Fri 27-Dec-13 23:56:16

My DP gets wound up over the stupidest things, I mean it's not a big deal if I get her to look after my son from previous relationship while I go out for the entire day and night playing games with my mates, right? Especially as I spent an entire hour with him before I went. She says I'm BU as he comes to our house as he's suppose to spend time with his dad, but I think it doesn't matter if I'm there really.

fhmm

TheFabulousIdiot Sat 28-Dec-13 00:02:10

I worry that mine would start a thread saying...

'My DW doesn't have sex with me enough and when we do it's not like it used to be and I do half of the housework, honest I do'

WaitingForPeterWimsey Sat 28-Dec-13 00:11:18

My dw spends too much time on mn aibu to try to get her banned from the site by emailing MNHQ to explain the gravity of her condition? smile

ScrambledSmegs Sat 28-Dec-13 00:19:03

Mine would probably say that DC2's refusal to sleep ever is killing our sex life, and when the hell is it going to get better because I have the same question?

We love each other just as much as ever, but quite frankly as soon as the insomniac kid lets us have at least one full night's sleep our relationship will improve immeasurably.

tiamariaxxx Sat 28-Dec-13 00:39:07

ScrambledSmegs - That sounds like my son. We have to settle for morning sex most times when he gets up for work and as im getting up to get myself ready before the brood wake up

shallowkitty Sat 28-Dec-13 01:16:28

U scared mi op I fought u woz my dp he's a fannie.

daiseehope Sat 28-Dec-13 02:45:34

AIBU to expect my DP to choose buy, wrap, sort presents, cook dinner, turn my nose up then demand a blow job after calling her a cow?

Vivacia Sat 28-Dec-13 07:13:31

Let me explain myself. I think OP has form for wanting to discuss MN and how its posters behave. This is fair enough obviously, it's good to be challenged. However I don't feel that Relationships is the right place, as it'd somewhere people come for support and often for some very difficult worries.

OP, having read your second post, why don't you start a thread asking for advice on this aspect of your relationship?

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