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awkward!!!

(31 Posts)
tiamariaxxx Fri 27-Dec-13 00:08:54

Just been browsing fb and my ex best friend is dating the guy i lost my virginity to when i was 16 eeek. Dont often see her but my birthday coming up and she normally comes out with us for a few drinks this may get awkward... Im sure she wont have an idea i didnt know her 12 years ago when it happened.

Not sure if i should keep quiet or tell her. Theres no hard feeling with the bloke at all its all in the past just wondering what should do

OatcakeCravings Fri 27-Dec-13 08:11:40

All you need to say is that he was your boyfriend when you were kids. FGS don't mention the virginity thing, it's totally irrelevant.

tiamariaxxx Fri 27-Dec-13 08:21:46

lol thanks JOYSMUM youve hit the nail on the head.

I can assure you my life is not action packed at all, guess why i make a big deal out of silly situations. Ive only done about 3 posts on here which i think could be referred to as action packed :D

carrotcakeandwine Fri 27-Dec-13 08:29:04

I wouldn't mention it. For all you know, she may already know. I'd go along with "it's so long ago, who even cares about it?" Because really, do you??

ALittleStranger Fri 27-Dec-13 08:29:40

What a christmas blessing that this is your biggest drama. If she mentions it just say, as others have suggested, "oh wow, is that X smith? I knew him when we were teenagers". I still can't understand why you're maintaining a "best" friend who you don't like though.

octopusinasantasack Fri 27-Dec-13 08:30:28

If you keep it quiet and it later comes out then she'll wonder why you kept it quiet and might jump to conclusions. He might say something anyway. I wonder why she is your friend if you are worrying this much what she will think? A real friend would not see it as a big deal unless you are still interested in him?

tiamariaxxx Fri 27-Dec-13 08:36:36

As i said shes an ex-best friend now we still assosiate but more online now, i invite her because we still are good friends with mutual people. Its not that i dont like her its just shes a very hard person to deal with sometimes shes had a very hard life my so called dramas are nothing compared to what shes had deal with ive always tried to support her but she does herself no favours you have to tread on egg shells sometimes. And as mentioned she is a stirrer hence why i distanced myself some what a very long story

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