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Calling all those with an eternity ring.....

(81 Posts)
wanderingclanger Wed 18-Dec-13 21:21:10

What is the protocol here - did you ask for one? Were you presented with one when you least expected it? I am too embarrassed to raise the issue and we've been together a long time (25 years) but if I don't do anything then by default nothing will happen...I realise that there are more important issues out there, but I'm just curious and it's easier to ask you lot than any RL friends!

Wolfiefan Wed 18-Dec-13 21:21:57

I asked! 40th birthday present. If I hadn't ask then I'd've had to buy my own!!

Crikeyblimey Wed 18-Dec-13 21:23:42

I just said I fancied one.

Many months later when dh got his bonus, we were in town and he suggested a trip to the jewellers where we bought our wedding rings. Tried on on, liked it, bought it.

Just mention you want one. People aren't psychic! smile

spudmasher Wed 18-Dec-13 21:24:14

Was expecting one after birth of DD2 which coincided with 10th anniversary......nowt.
Just had 20th anniversary..........nowt.
I might have to ask.

onetiredmummy Wed 18-Dec-13 21:24:28

I think that traditionally an eternity ring is presented for the birth of a first child. But I didn't get one.

After 25 years I think you need to ask smile

I dropped large hints saying you get them fir a first baby/anniversary luckily my first baby came four weeks before my first anniversary so he leapt on the idea of an easy present.

I asked for one when we were on holiday in Turkey as they had some that went with my other rings.

Bowlersarm Wed 18-Dec-13 21:28:10

I asked after quite a few years. DH was very happy to oblige. (Mine has five diamonds representing each of us fsmile )

MerryFuckingChristmas Wed 18-Dec-13 21:29:37

Traditionally, an eternity ring is presented for birth of first male child hmm

Anyway, I have one, despite the dubious sexist premise. I like diamond rings, so shoot me ....

Mabelandrose Wed 18-Dec-13 21:29:48

You always have to ask/hint for these sorts if things! Men don't even know the exist.

BIWI Wed 18-Dec-13 21:30:24

DH bought mine for my 40th. It does have to be said that there was a lot of fairly overt hinting going on. So much hinting that it was probably more of a definite suggestion!

ChristmasJumperWearer Wed 18-Dec-13 21:31:27

I asked. It was when DC1 was born. I gave DH a very very expensive watch in return, so he was happy too.

bluestar2 Wed 18-Dec-13 21:32:45

I hinted abt it being traditional for birth of first child but it didn't arrive.

However 2 years later for a surprise christmas present I got it - he said he had wanted to save for it and at time ds1 was born we couldn't afford that extravagance. So I would def say you need to hint at the very least

emsyj Wed 18-Dec-13 21:33:25

DH bought me an antique platinum and diamond eternity ring for my birthday the first year we were together shock. It was (is) beautiful.

However, I have been hinting, begging and nagging for a diamond tennis bracelet for over ten years now and got nowhere! grin

I would just mention that you would like one and maybe email him a few links to ones you like (assuming he does email). I particularly wanted a specific necklace last year so I just said to DH how much I liked it and how lovely it was and how it would 'go' with everything etc then I emailed him a link to the relevant page and I got it for Christmas.

AnAdventureInCakeAndWine Wed 18-Dec-13 21:38:06

I got one (sort of; it's not a traditional "eternity" design) for tenth wedding anniversary. I hadn't been expecting it and definitely hadn't hinted.

doasyouwouldbedoneby Wed 18-Dec-13 21:45:46

Totally unexpected 10th Anniversary present -a diamond and emerald ring--had never even thought about having one

Pilgit Wed 18-Dec-13 21:48:31

I thought it was traditional with birth of first child. I have two DD's now and not seen anything. But we have other things that need the money being spent on it - house, garden, mortgage. Dull, but there we are (he also says he would feel funny about it as it would essentially be bought with money I had earned.... still a bit boo though) so more silly socks and joke books for me for Christmas then....

pausingforbreath Wed 18-Dec-13 21:51:04

For my 1st wedding anniversary- I didn't hint.
A good while ago......

bouncyagain Wed 18-Dec-13 21:54:10

Only person I know who has had one was divorced within a year.

Surprise 10th wedding anniversary present for me.

MerryFuckingChristmas Wed 18-Dec-13 21:58:46

My Eternity Ring is 13 yo now and stronger than ever ... fgrin

IsItMeOr Wed 18-Dec-13 22:04:37

I heavily hinted and got one around our 10th anniversary.

I also got a diamond pendant for 40th birthday/15th anniversary, after heavy hinting.

I like sparkly stuff smile

There's no protocol or tradition whatsoever - if you like one, why not?!

I think they are really pretty. I have one in memory of my grandpa, which I bought from some money he left me.

I wouldn't hint because IMO unless your DH is extremely good at this stuff, he might not get you something you loved and for that amount of money, you'll want to love it.

ScrambledSmegs Wed 18-Dec-13 22:06:35

Um. Mine is my wedding ring. We just thought it looked nice with the engagement ring.

Hasn't bought me a single piece of jewellery since, mind grin Fair enough, I can buy my own!

AmberDextrous Wed 18-Dec-13 22:06:52

2nd wedding anniversary present smile

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