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Women watching porn

(261 Posts)
OhGodAmITheOnlyOne Wed 11-Dec-13 20:35:44

I've name changed and also posted about this in chat, but thought I might get better response here. This is 100% genuine. I occasionally look at porn or read erotic stories because it gets me in the mood. I don't know if DH knows, but I was wondering if it's common, if many women do? Or am I an awful person? hmm

CaptainHindsight Mon 03-Mar-14 16:50:55

We get it Sazgirl - why don't you start a new thread? hmm

Thedaughter123 Tue 11-Mar-14 20:32:14

thats gross

StickEmUpBigStyle Tue 11-Mar-14 20:35:02

sazgirl post sounds like she is 12 grin

Dianeyorks Sun 16-Mar-14 10:11:28

Thanks sazgirl...lovely message ..my DH loves to watch with me...its a fab turn-on x

hell4heather Tue 22-Jul-14 21:01:40

There is real evidence to suggest regular use by a partner in place of their wife/girlfriend/love/husband causes actual changes to the brain, changing (and indeed limitting) the ways in which a user is able to feel aroused. Occasional and shared use I would say is very healthy, but look out because it can so easily get out of control. There is so much of it around these days and it is so simple to access, it is becoming an issue and causing break-ups, pain and suffering to many, many people.
I'm no prude, but it is very easy to make light of the subject when it is becoming increasingly problematic in society. Take care with it, is all I'm saying. I wrote a book about a woman who has suffered as a result of her husband's addiction and had to do a lot of research on the matter. It makes you view it in a whole, new light.

NecklessMumster Tue 22-Jul-14 21:23:05

Years ago I read erotic books because that's all I could access (I am old). Then I started to look at tumblr sites. I found the change from reading to visual erotica made orgasms quicker but somehow less satisfying ..and I felt ill over some stuff I clicked on. I personally don't want to see anal sex and bj.After reading these posts and worrying about womens exploitation I went on the literotica website for stories. It seems to me that the visual stuff gave me a hollow...male type of orgasm rather than the fantasy in my head frpm reading, and it felt damaging. Sorry tired and rambling

newnamesamegame Tue 22-Jul-14 22:20:11

I don't have any problem with people watching it if they want and certainly don't think its anything for women to be ashamed or embarrassed about. Fill your boots if its what you like.

It leaves me totally cold though... I find porn about as erotic as accountancy. Leaving aside the ethical stuff, which does trouble me, I find it reductive, two-dimensional and depressing. And also depressingly suburban.

Passthedamnhamplease Wed 23-Jul-14 07:10:41

Has anyone ever seen cindy gallop's TED talk on this topic?
m.youtube.com/watch?v=FV8n_E_6Tpc

NecklessMumster Wed 23-Jul-14 10:18:15

I will have a look at that once I'm not at work.

Passthedamnhamplease Wed 23-Jul-14 18:26:10

I thought it was good necklessmumster. She just says she loves sex but hates the whole porn thing as it is today - and the whole expectation created by the porn industry. Fine if you like someone coming on your face, but in porn, every girl does and that's not reality and it is skewing the expectations of young men.

She has launched a site called make love not porn - adults submit their videos and can make money from them theirselves. She's an interesting character I think, though probably not to everyone's taste!

Passthedamnhamplease Wed 23-Jul-14 18:26:48

Themselves not theirselves. No idea where predictive text got that one from!

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