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Aargh have I blown it by having sex on first date?

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Laurel1979 Mon 09-Dec-13 19:11:43

I would really appreciate some impartial advice......

I've been single for 6 years and have an 8 year old DD. I met a lovely guy online recently and after texting for 2 weeks we arranged to go out for a meal. He's the same age as me but has no DC. We had chatted a lot on the phone before meeting and we seemed to have a lot in common, etc. There was a lot of sexual chemistry on the phone, but we agreed we both liked each other and on the first date would only kiss. We went out at the weekend there and immediately hit it off. I really like him and had a good feeling about him straight away. But...... after dinner he left me home and we ended up having sex (it was amazing sorry TMI... but definitely not typical awkward first sex). In the middle of it we both said we shouldn't be doing this but in the end couldn't keep our hands off each other. Wen he left he texted me saying what a great night he had, and yesterday he texted 3 times, just things like "good morning xx" etc.

But today - I've had a horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach all day, worrying he'll think I was too easy and that we've blown it - then tonight he texted apologising for what happened, said it was fantastic but not like him at all and he didn't want "anything too heavy too quick." I texted back agreeing and said I knew we shouldn't have done it so soon, and that I hoped we hadn't ruined things. He replied no, but just didn't want anything too heavy. I jokingly texted back that we should start again and next time meet somewhere neutral and have kiss on cheek only, he agreed. Prior to meeting we had talked about going to Christmas market some day, so I suggested that we do that this weekend (he'd asked me last week about it but until today I hadn't been able to get a babysitter). S he texted back, saying he would like to but "needs to get out of a sport thing" he has on Sunday but he would definitely know on Thursday. I said no problem just let me know, he said he will. I'd say this is genuine as he is in the local sports club where he lives and helps run events.

Sorry this is so long but I'd be so grateful for your opinions as to whether I've ruined things!! Many thanks in advance.

tiamariaxxx Wed 18-Dec-13 08:46:55

ok no problem, yer i get that honest mistake on my part.

And i know people say my sistuation is like a fairy tail and how lucky ive been etc but we had the most rocky first 6 months together had lots of obstacles in the way.

MummyBeerestCupOfCheerest Wed 18-Dec-13 08:52:39

Good for you, Laurel!

And have a good time this weekend!

JeanSeberg Wed 18-Dec-13 09:07:07

Lol at blondeorbrunette - desperate for a boyfriend because she's joined another site and already arranged to meet someone for coffee.

Get a grip, love.

And good for you Laurel. Hope the date goes well.

HelloBoys Wed 18-Dec-13 09:38:44

Laurel - have a good time, hope date goes well and glad you're back in the saddle as it were.

and ITA with JeanSeberg re blondeorbrunette - how can OP be desperate for a boyfriend?!

all OP is doing is dating after 6 years, good on her. smile

kaumana Wed 18-Dec-13 22:39:57

As it has been said above, I would also agree in joining the Dating thread, you will get loads of support and advice in OLD.

Jaynebxl Sat 21-Dec-13 08:04:17

Hope the date is fun today.

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