Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide, which can point you to expert advice and support.

I had an affair

(54 Posts)
changedmynameimashamed Sat 07-Dec-13 20:15:48

Yes, I had an affair. More emotional than physical. No hand, blow, face jobs of any kind.

Sorry this is very long. . .

I met my Husband 8 years ago he swept me off my Feet, we got married and have 2 absolutely gorgeous children. One of each gender, have a beautiful home, nanny, cleaner, home help, Husband is paid well and we dont have financial issues.

My Husband goes out whenever he wants, receives text/e-mail messages from women. He goes out and has freedom. I however, gave up all males friends (my own choice), gave up successful work to be a Mother (which I now regret), am indoors most of the time, dont have the opportunity to go out as my Husband gets home at 9pm.

I rely on Wine 'O'Clock and joined an extra marital affairs website. I was invisible, ignored, unnoticed for 2.5 years. In my heart I believed my Husband didnt care about me at all. I got chatting to a man who is married, with children the same age as mine and was as sexually depraved as me. He filled a hole, was funny, sexual, affectionate, lovely and made me feel like a woman again.

My Husband suspected something and put software on my laptop & saw the randy conversations we had. We met up on 3 occasions and kissed, it was wonderful. He made me feel alive again. I want him now.

I dont want to leave my Husband however I cant stop thinking about the other man. My Husband frightened him off with a threatening e-mail about telling his Wife and contacting Divorce lawyers.

Please tell me what you think of my behaviour. I know I will get grilled here and in a way I want to be told how silly I am.

MistAllChuckingFrighty Tue 10-Dec-13 08:43:04

Surprised to see that pile of swank still there confused

MistAllChuckingFrighty Tue 10-Dec-13 08:43:36

wank grin

cjel Tue 10-Dec-13 08:59:45

My goodness what a load of tosh!! OP you aren't happy with your H by your own admission. You were a cheat. that is no way to work on your marriage, It must be great being your dcs and living in such a wonderful happy family. FWIW I'm size 8-10 have had huge houses and fancy cars etc and was married for over 30 years, didn't cheat but found that 'working on it' was not always the only option.

Hope you are OK Bogey?

Bogeyface Tue 10-Dec-13 09:11:39

I'm good thanks CJel smile

I hope the OP isnt suffering too much this morning. In Vino Vitriol wink

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now