Please. Nigella was married to a man who without a doubt is controlling and abusive. Clearly some good things about him too, charming, bright, educated. He was caught in public behaving unacceptably. That is a shame, but equally not a shame as at least it helped Nigella see she needed to get out..this is most unlikely to have been the worst thing Nigella experienced, just the most public incident. He may have said, I accepted a police caution to avoid this hanging over us..thus diminishing the incident..oh it was nothing. Actually he had no choice but to accept police caution..nothing voluntary about this at all.
Nigella is dignified, makes no comment, does not go to the press, gets on with her life. He gets angry, plays victim, I am so sad she has not made a public declaration of support , I am not violent. I'll bet he didn't mark her as his ex wife will also testify to, but he did hurt her and he is still trying to hurt her and quite possibly always will as she left him.
Next thing we see in the press, is an allegation made by him in an email he sent on the 10th oct...I.e recently in preparation for his big day in court. In court, he admits he has never seen his wife taking drugs, ever...I find that compelling. If she has experimented, as one is now forced to wonder because of unfounded allegations, she is clearly functioning, clearly not a regular user and my guess is it is nonsense and I think the judge should not have read out such a damaging allegation in court. However it doesn't matter does it? Not to this case against those dreadful women, bar that perhaps they are not just thieves it is suggested they might also be blackmailers?
Next in court, Saatchi, satisfied he has caused maximum damage, declares his love for her. I only sent the email because I was angry (not my fault) I didn't read the email from my lawyers to hers forcefully threatening her to attend court(denial almost certainly a lie) He does not care if this damages her, he is justified in terms of whatever he does to her because she did not stand up and support him after his inexcusable behaviour..so it is her fault not his. The suggestion Nigella should have spotted the theft, again from the press it would appear the spending was on his card, bills going to him...no reason for her to spot it if she was not the one getting the bills. It is sad, but true, often when one gets emotionally involved, the help starts to think they are special and entitled to the same life style, especially when they become close and realise just human beings with the same problems as the rest of us day to day. I don't know what Nigella can do, silence, don't fight back probably remains the best strategy, just trust that those of us with an IQ can see it, we're behind you Nigella, you are amazing..keep up the silence if you can. You can do this , you are free, you are safe, carry on cooking, keep that faith you have in the general public and carry on just saying nothing trying not to react. Never trust him, he has no conscience and is not a gentleman and yes he is a twit as he lost you. He is breaking all the rules, this is your shared private space, what ever happened in your marriage is your private space and whilst he has a huge sense of entitlement anyone normal can see he is totally wrong to try and bring the debate into the public domain, that space belongs to both of you and it is private but he needs you damaged. He can't damage you, for every person you lose you will gain a person and the people you gain accept you for your amazing cooking and fun way of presenting and your imperfections whatever they might be. You are much loved by the general public, not because you are perfect, but because of imperfections that make you human. Keep up the silence if you can, you clearly have wonderful friends as there is a wonderful lack of fodder for the press...