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Pathetic, perverted and abusive excuse for a man, and I am done with him!

(78 Posts)
lulu1971 Sat 23-Nov-13 11:04:23

That sums is up really. I'm sick and tired of it all.

I don't normally post on here but last week someone posted about her partner taking naked photos without her consent and it struck a nerve. I found myself posting about my situation and since then I have thought about nothing else.

My story is long and spans the last 3 years. It involves his disgusting use of porn, his fetishes and him posting naked photos of me on a dating site and conversing with men, pretending to be me. The explicit nature of those messages was disgraceful and If I hadn't found out, purely by chance I imagine he would still be doing it.

That along with the emotional abuse and the nastiness has killed any feelings I once had for him. He talks to me like dirt, treats me like shit and I'm done with him.

I'm exhausted, fed up and feel like a fool. I really need a kick up the backside to get away. I know life would be better without him but I don't know why I can't bring myself to leave.

It doesn't help that I have 2 children from my marriage ( he had an affair after being happily together for 16 years, left me with a 4 year old and 9 month old as he realised family life wasn't what he thought it would be). I have also had a child with this poor excuse for a man.

What kind of man puts his partner on a dating site while she is busy caring for their 6 week old baby and critically ill mother who was on life support? A I said earlier in my post there is so much more to my story but I can't bring myself to write it all down.

I want out of here by the spring, just got to figure out how!

ballsballsballs Thu 12-Jun-14 21:21:54

Hope you're okay Op. x

SunshineofRay Thu 12-Jun-14 20:04:05

Hope you and the Dc are well and safe lulu

lostlalaloopsy Thu 12-Jun-14 19:40:12

I hope things are going well for you lulu.

maras2 Mon 09-Jun-14 14:38:54

Thinking of you Lulu. Mx.

Star8369 Sun 08-Jun-14 12:06:31

how are you today lulu?

guitarosauras Sat 07-Jun-14 19:51:14

You can do this. It'll be life changing but in the best way.

Today, is the beginning, of the rest of your life. Be positive & best wishes to you & your loved ones.thanks

flamingtoaster Sat 07-Jun-14 19:33:54

Hand holding - stay strong, you are doing the right thing for you and your boys.

ipswichwitch Sat 07-Jun-14 19:32:52

I hope you made it out ok. It may seem scary but you have already said its harder to stay than go, so you have already done the scariest stuff. We are all here for some hand holding whenever you need it.

Allice Sat 07-Jun-14 19:27:46

So glad that you've got out, take care of yourself and your boys.

HilariousInHindsight Sat 07-Jun-14 19:19:07

I am so sorry you're going through this.

He doesn't deserve you.

When someone shows you what they are like - believe them.

My ex made a video of me without my knowledge and after we broke up he showed it to our friends. I was 17 when he actually made the video and showed people when I was 18. He disgusts me to the core and am glad I'm no longer with him - it's so liberating and amazing to be with someone who treats you right.

Keep focused on the end goal. You'll be better off without him.

buggerboooo Sat 07-Jun-14 19:13:33

Well done. We are all here for you x

Butterflyspring Sat 07-Jun-14 19:01:45

good luck OP - well done for finding the strength to leave

TalisaMaegyr Sat 07-Jun-14 18:59:44

You are free. All the luck in the world thanks

Betrayedbutsurvived Sat 07-Jun-14 18:50:12

Go lulu! walk out the door and never look back, until the day, in the very near future, when you look back and realise today you've made the best decision in your life, ever!

FelineLou Sat 07-Jun-14 18:43:35

Remember paperwork - BC for DC evidence of residence, abuse, tax, bank statements, passports. Well done for finally deciding to go. We will be thinking of you.

queenofthepirates Sat 07-Jun-14 18:39:22

Hope you get a good night's sleep tonight, when you're ready, call Gingerbread and chat over what you're entitled to claim financially, you might be surprised.

Well done and huge hugs coming to you xx

RunLikeSomeFeckersChasing Sat 07-Jun-14 18:32:09

You should be out. Straight back head up and breath. Imagine you are walking out of a prison. You are.

hamptoncourt Sat 07-Jun-14 18:31:14

It's the start of a new adventure for you. Don't look back.

We are all rooting for you. If it helps, imagine us all standing behind you.

mammadiggingdeep Sat 07-Jun-14 18:29:55

Hand holding whilst you pack.

Good luck. Be strong. Dig deep
X

Gowaygoway Sat 07-Jun-14 18:25:31

You're doing the right thing. Imagine the peace you'll have once you're out with your boys. Good luck and stay strong x

Fooshufflewickbannanapants Sat 07-Jun-14 18:15:19

Chin up high

Will hold your hand and sending serious strong lady vibes

lulu1971 Sat 07-Jun-14 18:10:23

Well the time has come 6.30pm I walk out this door for good. I am shaking scared stiff and bordering tears. He has showed absolutely no emotion nor has he asked me to stay. I guess he never really loved me to begin with and I was just a game to him. Why on earth have I wasted my heart on this man. I am bereft!

kernowgal Sat 07-Jun-14 16:45:24

Another hand to hold. Sending you loads of courage and best wishes.

Humansatnav Sat 07-Jun-14 16:42:51

Holding your hand tightly.

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