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H stayed in bed all day with a migraine?

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hudsonriver1 Sun 10-Nov-13 21:05:10

Things are ok for a a couple of weeks and then back to normal. We got a new puppy, should never have done! H hates walking them and only wants to walk them with me. Im a childminder and walk them everyday. He said we can both go tomorrow.
He had a migraine this morning so didnt go to work and has stayed in bed all day. Is this normal. Hes been watching tv, been on his phOne ok!

eurochick Sun 10-Nov-13 21:06:37

Yes, if he genuinely had a migrane this is completely normal. It leaves you wholly unable to function. But watching tv and being on his phone suggests it wasn't a migrane. When I used to get them, the light from the screen would have provoked more vomming!

RandomMess Sun 10-Nov-13 21:08:12

Hmmm when I get migraines I like the TV on very quietly but in a dark room and I listen with my eyes tight shut - helps distract from the pain.

Does sound like he's really got one tbh...

Whatnext074 Sun 10-Nov-13 21:10:24

I have chronic migraines, I cannot get out of bed when I have them and sometimes scream in pain with them. I lose track of time and reality but I know that it impacts on everyone differently. People can see in my face when I am getting one as my whole face changes.

Iworrymyselftosleep Sun 10-Nov-13 21:20:37

I get migraines and sometimes use my phone. I know that at the least it doesn't help and normally makes it worse but I'm normally desperate for distraction especially from the nausea. I also have a really bad habit of playing an anagram game on it til my eyes won't stay open and I fall asleep and thats so much a part of my falling asleep routine that I struggle to dose off without it.

Having said that the last one I had, I wasd on ny own with ds and I called my mum round cos I was so sick. I then collapsed on the bed with my eyes shut not moving even a little for three hours.

So it depends. ..Do you think he was faking or exaggerating - or not?

sadwidow28 Sun 10-Nov-13 21:38:51

My SIL gets terrible migraines - I get them occasionally but nowhere near as bad.

I get emergency calls to collect DN but she uses music and eventually texting friends as a distraction. She is NOT faking it.

A person prone to migraines possibly have MORE occasions when they are under stress. Is there something in his work-life that is causing undue concern?

ImTenAPenny Mon 11-Nov-13 07:39:47

A serious migraine leaves you wanting to curl up in a dark place and not move, at least for me
It can't be that bad if he is watching t.v and on his phone.

Who's decision to get the dog was it?
In the grande scale it should be equal responsibility to walk and care de the dog but if he wanted the dog first then he can't just opt out because he cba.

17leftfeet Mon 11-Nov-13 07:44:51

I can watch tv with a migraine but stumble around and vomit if I move around

There are many types of migraine and no 1 set of symptoms fits all

Pollydon Mon 11-Nov-13 07:52:56

I get bad migraines, I have to lie still , if I try to get up I vomit [sick]. DH will put the radio / tv on low in the background.

Pollydon Mon 11-Nov-13 07:53:45

[fail] sad

Joysmum Mon 11-Nov-13 09:13:16

Sounds like he just needed a duvet day as we all do every now and again. If that's the case, why can't he just say that to you rather than making up an excuse?

hudsonriver1 Mon 11-Nov-13 09:33:03

Thanks. Funny how he could get up and make nachos in the afternoon and get a packet of crisps. He wanted the dog.
He also hasnt gone to work today which didnt surprise me. Sorry, have posted on here several times about his laziness. And he's still in bed!
Yes he is a bit stressed with work at mo but I dont personally lay in bed all day if im down, theres far too much to be done

gamerchick Mon 11-Nov-13 09:37:36

Man I have to keep as still as possible with a migraine.. they're horrible things.

Maybe getting a puppy wasn't a great move from the sounds of it.. you can't pick them up and put them down when you can't be bothered.

mummymummymillionmillion Mon 11-Nov-13 15:50:44

Annoying :-( if he wanted the dog he should walk it. Simple. If he had a migraine he would not surface.

thistlelicker Mon 11-Nov-13 15:52:50

Migraines for me mean dark room and eye mask with background noise either tv or radio !! Occasionally I mean very occasionally texting my hubby to let him know I'm ok if he at work

Oblomov Mon 11-Nov-13 16:24:09

When I have a diabetic hypo, staying in bed is just about all I can manage.

forgetmenots Mon 11-Nov-13 16:24:39

Sorry but some of the info on here about migraines is just false - different kinds of migraine present themselves in different ways, and some are photosensitive, some aren't. Even similar types can have wildly varying symptoms on two different people. I say this as someone with a long history of very severe migraine.

None of this means he isn't an arse though, because he clearly is grin

Weegiemum Mon 11-Nov-13 16:40:08

My BIL does this. He had "headaches" for years until his GP did some serious tests and told him they were stress and depression related.

Now he has "migraines" but won't even try any migraine medication (could that be because they're not migraines?). He spends all weekend in bed watching tv while sil looks after 2 boys age 4&6.

He's told dh he knows he's depressed but antidepressants are "rubbish" (tried one brand for 2 weeks about 8 years ago).

He came to stay with us about a year ago for 5 days - immesdiately went to bed (after getting our wifi key) and spent 4 out of 5 days in bed, loudly watching tv on his laptop. Only time we heard from him was when he was hungry or on the occasion dh turned off the wifi.

I understand that people get different kind of migraines - mine were hormonal, and I couldn't eat or watch a screen. He seemed to be able to do everything someone lying in bed for fun could do - watch DVDs, YouTube, listen to music, leave the (blackout) blind up. What really annoyed me is that we thought he genuinely had migraines so gave up our bedroom (which is specially designed for me, I have disabilities) and he was unhappy to let me in to use our adapted shower, as it "disturbed" him.

They won't be coming back until we can be sure this won't happen again. As a family we can't do it. No matter how much mil cries to dh that we "don't care". We do, it just hurts us too much.

Dahlen Mon 11-Nov-13 16:43:15

Not all migraines are equal. However, you clearly doubt him and that's more to the point than whether his migraine is real or not. You have those doubts for a reason. Either you are a cynical, mistrustful person or your H behaves regularly in a fashion that leads you to feel he's taking the piss. If that's the case, which is what it seems like, the real question is not "is this normal?" but "what am I going to do about it?"

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