this is so exciting!!!!! :D

[killpeppa]

I know some of you will think,
'so what... big deal' BUT...

after being in a financially and emotionally abusive relationship for the past three years I am finally in charge of my own finances!

he has no access!
I received my first child tax payment today as a single claimant & it hasn't been transferred straight out!!

I feel liberated. just saying

[pickledparsnip]

Congratulations! I felt the same last year, it is briliant!

[MumOfTheMoos]

Fab!

[MushroomFuckerSoup]

Hurray!

[Avondale]

Nice one! Lovin the user name too!

[ALittleBitOfMagic]

Amazing !!!!

[comedycentral]

Fabulous well done you

[DevonFolk]

Amazing feeling!! Well done

[mammadiggingdeep]

:) brilliant!!!
Whoop whoop x

[wontletmesignin]

that's awesome. well done and congratulations :) :)

[Lweji]

Well done.

[MistAllChuckingFrighty]

You again ??!

Brilliant

[EirikurNoromaour]

Enjoy it!

[killpeppa]

me again mist all. sorry, probably sick at the sight of me.

thanks everyone, just felt like sharing.
treated myself to some crochet materials- woo big spender.
thought a hobby should join me on my quiet evenings

[redundantandbitter]

I can feel your relief and happiness. Spend it well hun x

[MistAllChuckingFrighty]

Not at all

[killpeppa]

phew

[flame04]

Good for you!!! Independent and financially stable!!! Whoohoo! Xxx

[FreeAtLastAtLongLast]

Good for you!

[Molly333]

Fab news , mine too the csa have got my ex and he has to pay more than I thought . His new wife won't be impressed

[killpeppa]

Molly- Christmas must be looking a bit brighter in your house:)

next on the list is a house- I've one to view tomorrow with my darling mother. quite excited at the prospect as I canny face exH coming and going when he pleases from here ATM ( staying at his mums-only for a month)

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

Great feeling, isn't it? FWIW you don't have to let the ex come and go as he pleases. If you tell him to stay away and he refuses to listen there are ways around it, especially if there's a divorce underway. Have you taken legal advice?

[TiredDog]

Yeah! Fab isn't it

[killpeppa]

we can't divorce yet as the law in NI is that you have to be married 2 years until you can apply for divorce and we have only just been married one. FFS.
he cheated 9 months in btw.

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

Even if you can't divorce, you can set things up so that he can't easily swan back in. As lone female you have to protect yourself and that means extra security measures e.g. locks and bolts. Reasonable. Put it in writing that you don't want him to return to the house but will arrange to have his belongings avaiable. A decent man would accept this and stay away. If he tries to gain entry against your wishes you can then call the police.