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Anyone out there not having ups and downs....just always happy with dps?

(13 Posts)
happy2help Thu 31-Oct-13 09:32:42

I know there are a lot of unhappy people out there, whose relationships are at breaking point/have broken down due to extremes (infidelity, domestic abuse, for e.g.); but I'm interested to know, on the whole, are most peoples relationships generally really happy, mutually respectful, things shared equally etc? Please tell me about yours...thanks!

lastnightopenedmyeyes Thu 31-Oct-13 09:36:23

Yes, happy here. We obviously have our little disagreements every now and then but I am over the moon with our relationship. Been together for 17 years since we were both eighteen, married for 8 years with a 3 yo and another on the way. We run our own business and spend most of our time together.

Having a baby (sleep deprivation plus pnd) has been the biggest test but it has made us closer. No complaints and I think most of the arguments are probably caused by me being tired and grumpy, DH is very balanced and well natured grin

fanjobiscuits Thu 31-Oct-13 09:38:32

Yes v happy, we do argue sometimes but talk it through. Have been together years, well into double figures.

hettienne Thu 31-Oct-13 09:39:29

Yes, mine is. Obviously we argue sometimes but generally we are pretty happy and I would say always respectful and equals.

Squitten Thu 31-Oct-13 09:41:33

Yep, we're pretty happy (I think so anyway!)

We've been together for 12yrs, married for 6, and have two children. I've just passed my due date for DC3 so we're about to plunge back into the newborn horrors of birth stuff and sleep deprivation for the final time. Thankfully, over the 5yrs of dealing with the first two, we've got a pretty good plan for how to deal with that without murdering anyone!

Otherwise, we do alright. We're probably guilty of the usual parental stuff of not spending enough time on us as a couple but we've accepted that as part of the deal with small kids and it's only temporary. We're not huge romantic types, which I think is helpful because it means we don't have unrealistic expectations of each other, and we just potter along as we are!

FuckyNellItsHalloween Thu 31-Oct-13 09:45:32

Yes we are happy. More so i would say as the years go by. Been together 21 years and had some rough patches (due to me not him) and I can honestly say he is my rock and the best thing that ever happened to me. We balance each other, and our kids are the icing.

Isildur Thu 31-Oct-13 09:52:01

Yes, we are good.

I'm a pretty good judge of character, and so is my husband. We might appear dull to anyone else, but we 'get' each other. Always have.

Things are what they are. And if he were to take leave of his senses and fall for anyone else, well what could I do?

Can't see it happening though. We have enough respect for each other to tell each other where it's at.

happy2help Thu 31-Oct-13 09:53:44

Thanks for your responses - heart warming stuff! smile

NotYoMomma Thu 31-Oct-13 09:55:03

we are very happy.

have minor disagreements as most people do but we resolve and Move On quickly. we can discuss anything at all which I find important and say how we truely feel.

and neither of us put up with any bullshit

UriGHOULer Thu 31-Oct-13 10:05:19

Happy and in love here. We laugh at our feeble attempts at "arguing" if we have a difference of opinion.

We are both ' positive' people who have perhaps had our good nature taken advantage of in previous relationships. I think we realise what we've got is bloody good actually. And we genuinely like each other grin

You won't hear any OH bitching from me.

maras2 Thu 31-Oct-13 11:13:43

Very happy.Together for over 40 years.Now retired and can enjoy our 3 GCs.We're lucky as all of the family are within a 1 mile radius.We managed during the leaner years to hold onto the family home and didn't downsize after the kids left.Now Granny and Grandad's house is the focal point for get togethers.

MrsWolowitz Thu 31-Oct-13 11:23:04

Generally happy.

I've posted on here about DH and the fact that I believe he may have ADHD or similar as he has certain behaviours that cause massive rifts in our relationships. Behaviours that he seems unable to control i.e the inability to take on information and learn simple tasks.

Only now, after almost 7 years of marriage, am I beginning to realise that he cannot help it and the only way to avoid the rows is to do the tasks that he is incapable of and give him different responsibilities.

It sounds minor but its made me question if I can spend my life with someone who is utterly incapable of simple tasks.

That's said he is the kindest, sweet-hearted man who simply adores me and the DC. He is a lovely husband and a fantastic dad. I know he cannot help the way he is as he gets more frustrated with himself than I do! I need to keep reminding myself of that sometimes grin

Mapleissweet Thu 31-Oct-13 11:34:04

Current lifestyles I think put far more pressure on relationships than ever before. Women working with young families will inevitably put the pressure on any marriage as often there is no let up for either partner.
But if you take all that away and still live your dp then you are with the right person.

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