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DP told me to self harm after nasty argument

(79 Posts)
Whiterageofdespair Thu 31-Oct-13 01:02:05

Posted about this before and things were slinky more tolerable as he has been a bit nicer recently BUT we are in reality living separate lives and I'm pregnant and have small DCs having given up my job to look after them. I have no income and no independence. 'D'P has never been supportive, I think he is probably having an affair judging by his nasty malicious behaviour and emotional detachment and the final straw tonight was him telling me to and oh why don't you go and cut your arm. I've done it only very recently and found the whole thing terrifying. He creates severe anxiety and insecurity and then plays on this. I come second to his work and he spends most of his time at home on social network sites these days adding 'random people' for 'work'. Anyway that's a side issue.
He was going to leave a few weeks back but wormed his way back in has been disgusting towards me and my DD and told me he is sick of both of us and wants nothing to do with us and doesn't want to be here. I said fine leave you were supposed to leave a few weeks ago but he has no money so can't leave. Sorry this is so disjointed but I'm a bit of a mess and really need some support to get through this. I can't believe anyone would use something like that against another person, I just can't. He has form for nastiness so I guess I should be that surprised. If he is having some kind of affair and everything points to it although he says based on what evidence as he has done nothing to suggest it then why doesn't he just go, I don't understand any of this, all it know is I can't take it anymore but don't have the energy to do anything about any of it anymore. He is happily snoring away on the sofa which is where he sleeps while I'm once again in my room devastated. It's hell on earth and I was hoping someone could offer coping strategies to deal with something like this as I feel so very alone.

captainmummy Wed 06-Nov-13 08:12:54

What has happened, White?

colafrosties Wed 06-Nov-13 22:04:14

How are things today white? Thinking of you.

TheBakeryQueen Thu 07-Nov-13 14:43:35

Let us know how you're getting on white. Whatever has happened, even if you haven't actually ended things yet, you will get support on here.

We all know its easier said than done when it comes to ending an abusive relationship.

Hope you're ok.

Theoldhag Thu 07-Nov-13 16:38:57

I do hope that you are ok whiterage we are thinking of you and hope that you can feel supported by talking here.

thanks and wine

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