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What's that? Oh, my line in the sand!

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atosilis · 31/10/2013 00:35

I have got used to my husband shouting at me - sort of. I have learned to live with it. BUT.....

My daughter rang me yesterday to say that she was very sorry, she can't take Friday and Mon/tue off as she has a huge contract at work, she will be at the family do on Sat/Sun though. I saw her on Sunday, she was very tired and working too hard.

I finally told my husband tonight about her call and he just started shouting. My line was him calling her a liar, selfish and not thinking about him. I won't repeat the whole conversation but I am now shaky and sad, this is new territory for his rage.

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Greendove · 31/10/2013 00:55

sorry to hear this. Very glad you are protective of your DD. What is your next step?

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YoungBritishPissArtist · 31/10/2013 01:04

He sounds horrid. How long has he been this way?

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DoubleLifeIsALifeOfSorts · 31/10/2013 01:22

It's easier to get angry or just to 'see' it when it's directed at someone else isn't it? Especially someone you love and care for and have that protective instinct.

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holeymoleyinaholey · 31/10/2013 01:29

You say you 'finally told him', so you expected him to kick off?
Is everything all about him?

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ChippingInNeedsANYFUCKER · 31/10/2013 02:10

How long has he been like this towards you and why are you putting up with it?

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AdoraBell · 31/10/2013 02:54

Ah, so the entire planet revolvés around him does it?

Glad you've found the courage To stand up To him. Hope you are okay and safe.

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CogitoEerilySpooky · 31/10/2013 06:37

It's very common for women to tolerate all kinds of abusive behaviour towards themselves but, for some reason, when the exact same behaviour is exhibited towards their DCs, it's suddenly unacceptable.

Glad you challenged him and hope you have the good sense to reject this person.

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atosilis · 31/10/2013 07:02

Thanks for your responses, I'll be able to respond when I get to work.

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atosilis · 31/10/2013 14:10

holeymoley, yes I did expect him to kick off.

I need to work out what to do but it won't be until after Christmas. I'll keep thinking.

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holeymoleyinaholey · 31/10/2013 15:08

It won't be a very happy Christmas for you if you are trying to keep a lid on his rages though. The knot in your stomach is something you can well do without.

Have you told your daughter or a friend how you feel?