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I don't care if I never ever see you again in my life

(18 Posts)
Pinkpinot Wed 30-Oct-13 23:22:31

There is nothing I like about you
I wish I had never met you
Our ds deserves so much more
You are a c**t of the highest order
Sociopath, bpd, narcissistic, whatever
I have given up trying to work it out
You are the most selfish obnoxious vile person I have ever met
And YOU are leaving

CogitoEerilySpooky Thu 31-Oct-13 07:22:51

Sounds pretty emphatic. smile Have you said this to him out loud? Is he leaving?

Giveatossagain Thu 31-Oct-13 08:56:43

Chanel the anger into being the force to get out of the relationship and get free from him.

Sounds tough but like you are on the path to a happier life. Good luck, be kind to yourself.

Pinkpinot Thu 31-Oct-13 11:48:41

Sorry. Just had to get that out!
I'm away for a couple of days with ds
Just need to steel myself for the conversation on my return
It's going to be hell

onetiredmummy Thu 31-Oct-13 14:05:44

I've done this conversation. Its starts off hellish but then its OK because you're so angry you just don't care. I was enjoying it by the end as I got every last little bit of resentment & anger out that was years old!

Do what you need to & we are here for afterwards if you need us smile

PTFO Thu 31-Oct-13 20:42:15

go for it. its clearly been a long time coming, good luck, stay strong and let us know how you get on, we are here for you x

ToTheTeeth Thu 31-Oct-13 21:07:48

It's not going to be hell, it's going to lead to something fantastic for you by the sounds of it.

LEMisafucker Thu 31-Oct-13 21:09:42

BPD???? REALLY??? Thats an insult these days then?? FFS angry

The rest of it, you have my sympathies, he sounds like a cunt.

bamboobutton Thu 31-Oct-13 21:12:28

<what's BPD?>

good luck, op.

killpeppa Thu 31-Oct-13 21:12:36

I've done it- it feels fantastic.

good luck brave lady
we are all behind youthanks

Pinkpinot Thu 31-Oct-13 22:16:18

Lem, I'm sorry if I offended you
In an attempt to understand him, early on, I thought he had bpd, he doesnt, hes just a c@nt
The 2 arent related at all

I'm very worried about going home
I haven't spoken to him in 2 days so don't know how he's thinking

HissyFucker Thu 31-Oct-13 22:22:53

I was wondering if you knew my ex there for a second...

I know what you mean about trying to find a reason, a label, that explains their knobbishness... but no. He's only a twat.

Could you tell him it's over and that you want him to go?

payhisdebt Thu 31-Oct-13 23:58:53

eh? I thought a man had said all that to you , and was ready to condemn.
think about it.

CogitoEerilySpooky Fri 01-Nov-13 06:52:45

@payhisdebt.... I suspect the 'man' here has said & done much worse than this to the OP given that she's frightened to go home.

onetiredmummy Fri 01-Nov-13 10:47:48

Bamboo I'm assuming bpd means bi-polar disorder, but I'm not sure either x

HissyFucker Fri 01-Nov-13 11:06:07

I'd imagine she meant Borderline Personality Disorder, which if ignored/untreated is hell on earth to both sufferer and anyone they live with.

It can sometimes manifest almost identically to domestic abuse.

The effects of it are devastating on everyone near it.

It can be controlled, but requires will and effort of the sufferer.

Hawkmoth Fri 01-Nov-13 11:06:57

Borderline personality disorder?

kinkyfuckery Fri 01-Nov-13 11:08:56

It's going to be a difficult conversation, but I would advise you not to say any of the above.

Just tell him you are unhappy, he is unhappy, the relationship is not working, and you want him to leave. Stay calm, stay strong, and keep posting! x

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