name changed for this. will try and keep long story short
DSis has thrown husband out. Says she finally had enough (married 9 years). I'm surprised, tbh she has always been a doormat where blokes were concerned, falling for all the old tricks in the book etc. Don't get me wrong I love DSis to bits, but it was hard to see her get hurt by these losers. Her DH was a classic EA. Without going into details which may out her, he had anger issues, was a bully, controlling, called her names (in front of friends and their 3 kids, threatened to leave on multiple occasions, either had an affair or fabricated one to get his own way, was lazy, couldn't hold a job etc.
She's now on her own with the 3 kids. I know its her life, but last month she was giving it all "yeah I'll get over it" bravado etc. She's now gone very quiet, which may be part of the cycle of coming to terms with this sort of thing, I don't know.
My worry is she is nearly 100 miles away, with no friends/family near her. She has had a mental health issue before (again not helped by the way men treated her), so its hard to know if she is strong enough to deal with this and come out the other side. He still goes round to see the children and says things to her that mess with her head and emotions.
I really don't want to be an interfering cow (I'd hate it if it were me), but I don't want to stand and watch her fall to pieces all alone, especially with the 3 kids she has to look after.
What can I do/say? Did any of you have someone who just said/did the right thing? Is it watch and wait? Can you recommend any blogs/threads that might help me to understand things she might be going through?
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I don't know if she's coping. What can I do to support her?
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cbatbh · 30/10/2013 22:11
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