My parents have separated after 30+ years & are getting a divorce. I'm a grown up with a partner & 2 DC but have found it quite hard to deal with (it's been on/off for 5 years). Easier now that is is definite & they are moving towards financial settlements etc, no going back. Their relationship is amicable & they see each other frequently.
My dad now has a new partner who he has moved in with. Our relationship has taken quite a hit over this separation from my mum, & he clearly doesn't feel at ease talking about his new partner to me. In fact he hasn't told me that he has moved in with her, it was my mum who told me. I am aware that if she sticks around I will have to meet her & she will have to spend time with my children. I feel very hostile towards her & defensive on behalf of my mother. My mum will never ask me not to see her/keep the grandchildren away & is very upset that my relationship with my dad has been damaged, but also feels very hurt at being replaced so quickly, & would not like to see my children responding to someone else as a "grandmother".
I just can't imagine having an easy meeting with my dad & his new partner - I cringe inside just to think about it. Have other people been through this?
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ArabellaBeaumaris · 30/10/2013 12:38
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