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Is this really a THING that people DO???

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Strawberrykisses Sun 27-Oct-13 06:30:58

I am in a new relationship with man I've known for a long time. Until I got together with him I never had sex on my period, and when I mentioned this to my friend she looked at me aghast, as if I was weird. I didn't think it was that common, to have sec on your period. I've clearly led a sheltered life.
Now I've relaxed into the relationship a lot and I'm now comfortable having sex on my period, which is awesome, no more crossing a week off the calendar and feeling frustrated.
ANYWAY. I have my period. Last night in bed my partner told me he wanted to go down on me. I was slightly shock, but he was totally relaxed and serious and said "it's alright, it's called a strawberry kiss". I declined.

Is this really a thing that people do???? Strawberry kisses? Really? hmm

What Bragmatic said. I don't understand why some posters here find this so offensive

ExcuseTypos Sun 27-Oct-13 07:18:10

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ExcuseTypos Sun 27-Oct-13 07:19:53

vivacia. I think it's perfectly reasonable to point out facts.

HotDogSlaughter Sun 27-Oct-13 07:25:15

Some guys enjoy this. No biggie. If he wants to.....

Strawberrykisses Sun 27-Oct-13 07:26:16

I don't want to know details of others experiences, I just wanted to know if this was something that was relatively common. Despite being sexually active for ten years, this is only my 5th partner and I was with my STBXH for 8 years before I left at the beginning of September. Of the previous three, one was a virgin (as was I), one was a ONS with a friend, and the other was a sexually, physically and emotionally abusive wanker. Then my husband was a virgin. So I have never been sexually adventurous, and I feel pretty inexperienced when I talk to my friends as they have all had a lot more experience, both in number of partners and variety of sexual experiences.

LordPalmerston Sun 27-Oct-13 07:26:38

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Strawberrykisses Sun 27-Oct-13 07:27:14

Thank you to the posters who have given serious replies.

CatAmongThePigeons Sun 27-Oct-13 07:29:04

It's not common among people I know.

Strawberry kisses [vomit]

You know people who tell you all about your sex life then Cat?

That's why people ask on here, because it's questions they couldn't ask their friends. My DH goes down on me when I'm on (with mooncup in). I don't go round telling everyone I know about it and had no idea some people would be so disgusted by it.

smokinaces Sun 27-Oct-13 07:40:13

I have v. Light periods as on the coil. I use a moon cup with absolutely no mess. My boyfriend does go down on me in that situation. No strawberry kisses for sure, its all clean and tidy, but he does give oral sex at those times (he'd do it all day if he could, bloody loves oral sex)

AnyFuckerForSindarella Sun 27-Oct-13 07:40:14

I accidentally did it once, thought i'd finished, realized i hadn't when he popped up looking like a vampire. I had to tell him..... It was only our second time DTD shock

Timeforabiscuit Sun 27-Oct-13 07:46:02

It's called a strawberry kiss because of the mark it leaves on your chin.

Menstrual blood is not dirty, I'm assuming that both have you have had screening checks for blood Bourne viruses like hepatitis? If not maybe a trip to the sti clinic before you embark on horizons new grin

I love your partners approach of within the law and within your comfort zone!

Whatever you're comfortable with is between you two - so please don't take too much from what's normal on a forum (especially with the beaker backlash), pay attention to what you're comfortable with an enjoy grin

lifesgreatquestions Sun 27-Oct-13 07:46:55

While the thought of this disgusts me, to each his or her own, what do you want to do OP? (Granted, I might not return to the thread to find out - just encouraging you to find your own path!)

Ohwhatwitcheryisthis Sun 27-Oct-13 08:28:46

ooooo aren't we all norty taking about sex? Hope all the tourists are enjoying it. wink

Mojavewonderer Sun 27-Oct-13 08:47:42

I don't talk to anyone in real life about my sex life because it's mine and my husbands business. If I had a problem I would use mumsnet to discuss it. So I find it really annoying when someone comes on here and is shot down for being a troll or a kid. You will stop people from using the site correctly if you carry on and then it'll be pointless. You should give people the benefit of the doubt unless proven otherwise.

Vivacia Sun 27-Oct-13 08:52:17

Oh piss off about troll hunting rules.

1) I think they are good rules. Troll hunting can be even more disruptive than the trolling.

2) Even if I didn't think they were good rules, they are the rules and you agree to abide by them when you join.

What if you get it wrong? What if you put off genuine posters seeking genuine help?

Why is it so difficult for you to not just report rather than telling me to piss off?

rainbowfeet Sun 27-Oct-13 08:53:04

Was feeling queezey with my hangover now I'm positively fighting the urge to chuck!!! confused

Just ewww!! Agree with Mrswembly

ithaka Sun 27-Oct-13 08:55:23

Menstrual blood is not dirty, its just blood. Do you not suck a cut finger?

I really don't see the big deal about a man going down when you have a period. My DH does it. Mark of a real man, if you ask me.

MrsWolowitz Sun 27-Oct-13 08:58:35

Mark of a real man, if you ask me

hmm

I have extremely heavy periods that include clots so this is a big fat no from me.

And guess what? My DH is still a real man hmm

Scarletohello Sun 27-Oct-13 08:59:03

Personally I'm really horny when I have my period and love sex during it ( if partner is willing)

Re oral sex, one time I was with a guy, I woke up at 5am with terrible period pains and he very kindly went down on me which helped relieve the pain greatly. I also had another boyfriend who once pulled my rampion out with his teeth!

( takes all sorts...)

rainbowfeet Sun 27-Oct-13 09:00:21

Mark of a real man???!!! biscuit

lisad123everybodydancenow Sun 27-Oct-13 09:02:06

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HettiePetal Sun 27-Oct-13 09:02:56

Menstrual blood is not dirty, its just blood. Do you not suck a cut finger?

Well, to be fair, it's not just blood - there's womb lining & tissue in there too.

ithaka Sun 27-Oct-13 09:06:01

True, but it is really nothing to be scared of, or grossed out by.

That is why I used the phrase 'mark of a real man' - I wouldn't be interested in a guy who was disgusted by something as natural and healthy as a woman's period.

Thants Sun 27-Oct-13 09:08:33

I don't have piv sex on my period because they are very heavy and painful. But sometimes we do mutual masturbation. He has gone down on me when I'm on my period. I've had my moon cup in though. It was relaxing lol!

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