Ok don't normally do this but don't feel I can tell anyone who knows me. Three years ago my husband had an affair and moved out, saying he no longer loved me ( horrible). Over the next year he came and went as was generally really screwed up, he's not a bad man but like most of them selfish...
To cut a long story short we got back together moved house and are on the whole very happy great friends. BUT no sex, as he has no interest in me like that and won't talk about it. He's very good to me in other ways and when we talk about the affair he seems honest and regretful.
This morning I picked his phone up instead of mine - he works with her- and saw a message from her which of course I read ( not cool I know). There was nothing incriminating, just setting up meetings, just the tone of his talk to her was very jokey, familiar and even a bit flirty. I'm furious because, well, where to start. I only took him back because we had two very young girls and I couldn't bear for them not to have a proper family and I really wanted to make a proper go of it.
What do you think? I want to confront him as I'm feeling really bitter and want to know whats going on. I don't think he's having an affair but do think his relationship with her is inappropriate and disrespectful to me. Or am I overreacting and should say nothing like the filthy sneak I am?
I ant stand the thought of being single mum with no job and no cash and the effect on the girls but feel I'm being a real dummy here staying a marriage that's just mates while he flirts elsewhere.
Can't talk to friends or family as they hated him ast time and don't want all that raked up again...
Please help, I'm really struggling.
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Husband flirting with ex affair colleague : am I nuts???
Cheryllou · 24/10/2013 11:59
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