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My OH always anal

(87 Posts)
SnoozyAQ Wed 23-Oct-13 20:49:36

I really do love my OH and we have a great sex life but we always end up having anal sex neither of us can seem to have what I would call normal loving sex. Does this mean we are just in tune with each other or we have problems.
We can start off having sex where I feel we are proving we love each other but it soon turns into animalistic sex.

olivo Wed 23-Oct-13 21:10:14

I thought it was my OH complaining about my slightly over the top need for perfection I. Many areas, such as straight towels, shoes lined up, etc blush

lurkinglorna Wed 23-Oct-13 21:11:43

personally it wouldn't be good enough for me, just doing it once a year. i'm normally a xmas and birthday girl.

MrsWolowitz Wed 23-Oct-13 21:12:04

What exactly is your question? Is it ok to have regular anal sex?

(1) Yes. Yes it is if you both want it.

(2) No. No it isn't if one of you doesn't.

I don't understand what the issue is here. Either you enjoy it and are happy with your sex life or you don't and your not. In which case see point (2) above.

Fluffycloudland77 Wed 23-Oct-13 21:12:26

Have you anthea'd your towels olivo? Because you can't be truly anal unless the towels are folded the Anthea way.

Tea towels included, E-Cloths optional.

MrsWolowitz Wed 23-Oct-13 21:12:28

*you're

GillyBillyWilly Wed 23-Oct-13 21:13:34

blush

MoneyMug Wed 23-Oct-13 21:14:15

How do you all know the op isn't genuine?

Op if that's what you both like, there's nothing wrong with it.

ScaryNutellaFucker Wed 23-Oct-13 21:14:16

Why are you asking us instead of talking to your partner?

bundaberg Wed 23-Oct-13 21:15:33

well if you don't want to always have anal you need to tell him so.

i mean, i can't imagine how he just accidentally does it....

CogitoErgoSometimes Wed 23-Oct-13 21:22:02

Sorry but the front bottom comment sent G&T up my nose. ROFL!!!

Yseulte Wed 23-Oct-13 21:23:46

If you're for real OP and you don't want always to end up having anal then you need to tell your partner. Don't let yourself be coerced.

HerdyHerdwick Wed 23-Oct-13 21:27:42

hmm

GreenVelvet Wed 23-Oct-13 21:29:30

Well I have a theory about men who have a "thing" about anal sex. I don't think they like women very much.

There is also less emotional connection than vaginal sex, and the man is not connected with female energy in the same way.

On a purely practical level, anal sex is also more dangerous because unless you take precautions there is a chance of bacterial infection of the vagina.

I am not sure if that helps you with things OP, since you have consented to this but feel there is still something amiss. But perhaps it will give you some food for thought...

olivo Wed 23-Oct-13 21:29:41

Hell, must check out Anthea, fluffy. They have to be folded exactly and hung straight though, no edges overlapping..... As for my fitted sheet folding......wink

HerdyHerdwick Wed 23-Oct-13 21:31:42

Anthea, Brian and 'technics' all on one thread. Just one reason I enjoy MN so much grin

Fluffycloudland77 Wed 23-Oct-13 21:32:58

I've tried the fitted sheet folding, I haven't got the hang of it yet.

Dh put me an extra shelf in for towels, I was very happy.

Nottalotta Wed 23-Oct-13 21:37:12

Um. I think you need to provide more detail.

Or not....

redundantandbitter Wed 23-Oct-13 21:42:22

Yep- must admit I thought this thread was going to involve tea towels and nicely arranged shoes.... I was SOOO wrong.

Anal sex. Do it if you like, if not don't. Not sure what you want us to say. Horses for courses... She says carefully skirting around the subject trying not to give too much away

lurkinglorna Wed 23-Oct-13 21:45:45

seriously,

i think to re-instate the romance and loving feeling, you should take a holiday and/or go out to dinner.

there's a great "holiday village place" near Warminster where you can do a variety of fun activities.

also there is a great restaurant above harvey nicks on the south bank, get your dp to take you there smile

brightnearly Wed 23-Oct-13 21:47:05

So do you both always get carried away into the "animalistic" despite best intentions of being gentle and loving, or does DH get carried away taking you with him?

Whatnext074 Wed 23-Oct-13 21:47:25

I think OP is playing on the article that was in the DM yesterday about MN and is attempting to get a reaction. Go away.

Mintyy Wed 23-Oct-13 21:49:51

Actual laugh out loud at lurkinglorna.

gamerchick Wed 23-Oct-13 21:51:08

I thought DM straight away as well. Apparently some of the curtain wipers in the comment section were going to pay us a visit.

Yseulte Wed 23-Oct-13 21:58:38

I agree, GreenVelvet. There's also the issue of damage to the rectum and anus due to their fragility. Condoms and lubrication reduce the risk of tearing.

Unprotected anal sex also carries an elevated risk of passing on STIs because the anal sphincter is delicate, easily-torn tissue and a tear can provide an entry for

The number of heterosexual men who pressure their partners into anal sex without actually being aware of the risks to the penetrated partner concerns me.

OxfordBags Wed 23-Oct-13 22:00:45

I thank you for 'curtain wipers' from the bottom of my blackened heart, gamerchick.

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