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Have met guy OD, nice profile, upfront about kind of thing he's looking for which by happy coincidence is what I want too (no in your face, living in each other's pocket stuff but a ultimately a relationship with the right person).
Been out once, got on well, arranged to meet again this weekend. We don't live near each other (I like that) I'm going to his part of the world this time. So then I notice he phones more than I thought someone who is casually dating (at this stage) would do. Then he offers to put me up for the night this weekend (in the spare room, all sounds quite ok) so we can do something on Sunday (is that too much time together for a second date or is it me). Then tonight he phones 3 times in the space of an hour. I phone him back when I finish what I'm doing (because I have a life) and he tells me about his divorce and by the way he's a bankrupt. And his barrister was a "feminist bitch" (which he then apologises for saying).
I've told him I'm not staying the night because I don't know him and it's far too soon for that, innocent or not. He's cool.
So - I should be mildly/somewhat/very cautious. At the very least I'm disappointed he used such disparaging language about a woman, and I'm that he's a bankrupt by choice but is solvent now.
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