Not technically my Mother in Law but her son is my long term partner and we are getting married next year. His Mum has always liked me and told other people she loves me. She asked me to live with her leading up to the birth of my son as she felt I could do with the support after he was born. To be honest I didn't want to. I wanted to be in my own place especially after baby is born so that I could settle into being a Mum without an audience but my partner persuaded me to move in. I have been here for 3 days and I am 41+2 days pregnant and being induced Saturday.
I have had a very busy pregnancy and only this weekend finished all the chores I needed to do. I am a student and had a placement and essays until I was 40 weeks pregnant and after that I have had paperwork for my new house I'll be moving into from my flat.
However today I am really upset. While making a cuppa I saw a message flash up on my MIL's partner's phone saying 'she needs to learn to do more than shower and eat food all day. It's not a pretty sight'.
I was so upset I left my cuppa and just went to my room. I have been taking a shower in the morning and one in the evening in these last few days of pregnancy, mainly as I just feel dirty and stressed. I never thought it was a problem :-( I am not overweight and don't over eat. In fact because I didn't want to help myself to food I wasn't eating much and his Mother kept telling me I must help myself and so since Sunday I have been getting my own food out the fridge.
I have offered to help wash up but they said it's okay and I do keep our bedroom tidy and clean and always clean up after myself. I am more than happy to help with anything round the house. I admit that since getting here I have just sat watching tv and doing admin but this is not the way I am usually. I am just so tired and uncomfortable with being overdue.
I haven't told my partner about the txt, he would be too hurt and might cause a fuss. There's no point bringing it up as best scenario it would cause awkwardness. I have managed to make an excuse for why I need to stay at my flat for a few days. Anyone any advice on how to not be miserable when I return (I'll have baby by then). Right now I'm in my room and I'm hungry today because I don't even feel I can make any food. Partner isnt back until tmrw morning. I feel so hurt and misjudged.
Any excuses for having to be back at my flat once baby is born? My parents are coming to get me two weeks after the birth anyway so I can shower, eat and be a Mum without judgement once there. Can't wait!
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41 weeks pregnant and Mother in Law and her partner accusing me of not helping round the house
jacinta1 · 15/10/2013 15:56
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