Will try to keep this brief. DH and I are separating. All the usual clichés - we've grown apart, we don't have sex, we are very different. There is no one else involved (as far as I'm aware).
I'm a SAHM. DH wants to keep the marital home. I can't afford to keep it on my own, so I've agreed. Because I'm not working, I'm going to struggle to move out with the children for a while.
After various discussions, the plan is to get the house valued and agree an equity split. We (DH effectively) will then rent a "crash pad" locally and we will effectively share custody of the children and the house. So when I have the children, I will stay in the house and he will go to the flat. And vice versa when he has the children.
The thinking is that this will give him time to save my part of the equity without having to remortgage (there won't be much). It will give me time to get my career sorted and start earning money when my youngest starts school next September. It will give the dc's chance to get used to us being separated but without having to leave their home (and possibly friends/schools etc - I'm not sure I'll be able to afford to stay in our village ).
Has anyone done anything similar? Does anyone have any thoughts/potential issues I haven't thought of? Is it a recipe for disaster or could it work??
Not sure that was so brief after all Sorry!
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Separating. Can't afford to move out. Could this work..?
Tillyscoutsmum · 15/10/2013 14:09
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