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Bloody H looking at porn on pc

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wotafarce Thu 03-Oct-13 20:30:54

Am so mad; he knows I don't approve. I know he uses it, he has done for years but he always makes sure the history is deleted.

Just found some that he's looked at today and it was she-male stuff FFS amongst 'normal' porn. Usually it's 'asian babes'.
Wtf is that all about?

He's very techy and there's nothing in the folders on the pc (that I can see). Nothing on the history or temp internet files either, yet this stuff is on the recently changed files of both his & MY profile (which is how I found it when looking for one of my docs).

I feel like printing the stuff and posting it to everyone who thinks he's a nice chap. Fatheaded Twat that he his.

wotafarce Sun 06-Oct-13 13:56:53

The DC probably do realise but I'm not moving now just to move again in 2yrs time.

There's no angry shouting, just 2 people who don't care for each other living in the same house. We're quite a busy household, so not much opportunity to do 'family' stuff really. I do the majority of stuff with the DC.

sweetiepie1979 Sun 06-Oct-13 14:12:17

Oh God that is so sad. That's an awful way to live I'm so lucky I'm off to give my husband a big hug and s kiss. Reading threads like this make me realise how lucky I am. I would hope that if I was in your position OP I'd leave I'd like to think I'd have left a lot sooner than this. Good lluck to you both I hope you both find love again.

wotafarce Sun 06-Oct-13 14:18:55

Yep it is sad, but there's no violence thankfully.

I'm never having a relationship again though, this has put me off for life.

cjel Sun 06-Oct-13 15:22:11

or from his point of view, he gets 'paid' for doing chores with sex? or why should you have it your own way? I don't understand where that thought comes from - they are two distinct things surely or do you get diamonds for washing up and he gets a kiss for paying a bill? you should seriously leave - you sound so selfish 'I'm not going now just to have to move again in two years' I hope you get two more healthy years to have that option.

wotafarce Sun 06-Oct-13 19:02:30

It was never a condition that he had to pull his weight to get sex, but over time I have become disillusioned and resentful with the house being in his name only, the continued financial abuse, and the amount of time his hobby takes up.

I have become a housekeeper to him - at least, that's how it feels and I think it's understandable to not want sex with someone who treats you like that.

cjel Sun 06-Oct-13 21:44:35

No, i'm sorry, I need to stop this, I'm being rude, It just struck me that it was hard to tell which came first - him not wanting to do chores or you being angry and not liking him . I'm not being helpful or supportive sorry.flowers

Albert27 Sun 06-Oct-13 21:58:27

My now ex was looking at she-male sites along with shed loads of other stuff - he told me it was like me on eBay, I'd find a dress I liked but I might end up looking at shoes too!!

Get rid of him. I did, best thing I've done for yonks.

And like you it was only one of the issues - was, no IS, an emotionally abusive twonk too.

wotafarce Sun 06-Oct-13 23:53:20

Thanks for your apology cjel, I appreciate it.

I'm going to take a break from this thread now, it's been useful to vent and I'd like to thank everyone for their opinions.

cjel Mon 07-Oct-13 13:31:37

take care wot.x

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