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What is the age gap between yourself and your partner?

(87 Posts)
squinney Mon 30-Sep-13 15:58:23

and what would you consider to be too old or too young?

miffybun73 Mon 30-Sep-13 16:00:41

2 years.

I'd say that a gap of more that 5 years either way would be too much for me, but some people have 20 year gaps and are quite happy with that.

Rooble Mon 30-Sep-13 16:02:25

I'm 5 years older. It suits us fine. I think it's down to the individuals really. Like every aspect of a relationship

tanfastic Mon 30-Sep-13 16:03:49

Dh is 8 years older and I wouldn't go above 10 years' older or 5 years younger.

valiumredhead Mon 30-Sep-13 16:04:57

3 years. I'm not sure I'd consider anything too old tbh.

themonsteratemyspacebar Mon 30-Sep-13 16:05:55

DP is 2 years older. I wouldn't go younger but would probably go up to 10 years older

Greydog Mon 30-Sep-13 16:05:58

I'm 10 years older than my DH! It came as quite a shock to some people when they found out at a recent birthday!

Capitaltrixie Mon 30-Sep-13 16:08:43

DP is 7 years younger. I NEVER thought I'd go more than a couple of years younger..

Ledkr Mon 30-Sep-13 16:08:51

Me too greydog it's a feather in my cap!

merlin Mon 30-Sep-13 16:09:04

I'm 6 years older than DH - love having a toyboy!!

I guess if you have the same interests and outlook on life age is but a number. The only time I could see a big age gap being an issue would be with children if they were little.

I am 1 MONTH older than dh!

fruitpastilles Mon 30-Sep-13 16:09:26

Dp is 16 years older, works for us smile

cogitosum Mon 30-Sep-13 16:09:47

Dh 17 years older! Never thought I would've considered that but he's great and we're really happy! It helps that he's very fit etc and young looking

DH is 2 years older. In the past I dated a bloke 25 years older. DH definitely has a firmer bum

RobinSparkles Mon 30-Sep-13 16:10:44

7 months. He is older and I never let him forget it wink.

I don't know what my age gap limit would be. I think it depends on the person. Some people act older than they are and some people act younger etc.

I wouldn't go much younger - maybe a year or two.

poshfrock Mon 30-Sep-13 16:16:01

DH is 5 years younger. Works for us. Ex-DH was 4 years older. I found him too controlling. But maybe that's just him and nothing to do with his age... Anyway I look younger than DH ( so people tell me) so I'm happy with that and so is he. smile

myflabberisgasted Mon 30-Sep-13 16:18:02

my DH is 19 years older... works brilliant for us as he is still a massive child at heart!
We have been together just over 5 years smile

DH is 12 years older than me. We have been together for 15 years so it must be working!

I don't think I have an upper or lower age limit, I think it depends on the person.

tory79 Mon 30-Sep-13 16:21:24

Dh is 8 years older. We've been together for 9 years now, and to be honest, it's starting to become an issue. I never noticed it when we were first together, but now at 34 and 42 there is quite a difference between us and not in a good way sad

HappyJustToBe Mon 30-Sep-13 16:23:05

DH is 6 years older. We don't tend to notice.

Don't have an upper/lower limit really.

EstelleGetty Mon 30-Sep-13 16:24:22

DH is 10.5 years my senior. I'd agree with Jemima - depends totally on the two people in question.

Our age gap isn't without its issues - DH is obviously much further along in his career than me, and our earnings are vastly different as a result. And I used to worry about him being an 'older' father (we don't have DC yet, but would like to. I'm 27 and he's 38), but I've come to see that as not being an issue. On the positive side, he thrills me with lots of wonderful tales of Glasgow in the mid-late 70s and the three day week! And I explain who people in Heat magazine are to him. smile

Dahlen Mon 30-Sep-13 16:25:03

XH was 17 years older. It didn't work out but not because of anything age-related. Current BF is 9 years older, though you'd think we were much closer in age if you saw us together. He looks younger than his age and I got the face I deserve through some serious partying in my 20s. wink

I don't think age gaps matter either way in terms of compatibility. You'll have more in common with a like-minded individual 15 years older than someone you own age who has totally different interests and values. Also, maturity doesn't really alter personality after about 23 years of age IMO. So-called immaturity is more of a character flaw IMO than it is something which improves with age.

The only things to consider about age gaps are other people's reactions if you are sensitive to wider opinion, and the implications for health when you are older.

CaptainCupcake Mon 30-Sep-13 16:25:15

Husband is 5 years older. I have always dated older men, never been attracted to anyone my age or younger. Actually that's a lie, once I had a date with a guy a year younger and it was disastrous!

I am happy with the gap as it is now, and can't see that changing. It's big enough that we are on a similar level intellectually, but not so big that it will cause issues.

KittyMcAllister Mon 30-Sep-13 16:25:19

DH is 4.5 years older, seems to work very well. I've always gone for older men, would probably go up to about 15 years older - don't think I'd go younger much tbh.

pxmx Mon 30-Sep-13 16:34:04

DH is 12 years older. I've never had a boyfriend of the same age or younger they have always been older. With dh you would never know there was more than two or three years between us and people are often shocked to find out his age. In fact he is more of a big kid than I am smile

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