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I've left him

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frustratedashell Thu 26-Sep-13 23:21:13

Things have been difficult since I moved in with my partner 4 weeks ago. I moved 160 miles to be with him. But he's still behaving like a single man. I've spoken to him about it many times. He just doesn't get it. I had one last try to talk to him tonight, went badly. So i told him I was leaving. I packed an overnight bag and am now at a travel lodge. Going back in the morning to pack my stuff and go back home tomorrow or Saturday. I haven't cried yet. Just feel angry. Can't sleep.
He's not going to change is he? We're both mid 50`s. I can't livetthe way he wants to. I've given up my whole life for him butIhe can't see that. I know i will get over it but I've got it wrong again!

oldgrandmama Fri 27-Sep-13 09:49:23

Good for you, OP. Wish I'd been as brave and decisive as you (long story). Did it eventually but took two years to get to the point ... NEVER looked back since, hurrah!

Don't listen to your mum.
Even as we get older, we have to make our own mistakes.
No point wondering. Sometimes we have to take the plunge and see how it goes as life is too short.
You took the plunge but got up and out pretty quickly.
Everything happens for a reason.

frustratedashell Fri 27-Sep-13 19:42:41

Hi all, I'm back home in Sussex. Had a lovely big wet kiss from the dog. Lol

ThePinkOcelot Fri 27-Sep-13 22:40:18

Good for you girl! Good luck on the job hunt. Onwards and upwards!

cjel Fri 27-Sep-13 22:48:57

well done, so glad you were brave enough to do this. Hope you get job sorted soon.xxflowers

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee Fri 27-Sep-13 22:54:47

Ah great, sloppy dog kisses, just what a girl needs at a time like this smile

Was he there when you went back for your stuff? Has he had much to say for himself?

I hope you sleep better tonight.

perfectstorm Fri 27-Sep-13 23:01:12

It has to be the right decision if he thought his weekends could be spent almost wholly with the boys, when he has a DP! What century is he living in?!

Sorry for your heartbreak. I hope the job search is triumphantly successful.

betterthanever Fri 27-Sep-13 23:01:27

You have done the right thing to trust your instincts flowers it is the main resource we have and it is never wrong.

frustratedashell Sat 28-Sep-13 02:51:01

He came home from work around 10.00 . I was packing. He stayed home. We had words but then things calmed down. He still didn't understand why. He said he didn't think I would leave and was surprised by my decision. He cried when I left. We hugged goodbye and I left. He looked so upset. I said he should have appreciated what he had . We parted as friends.
To be fair perfect storm he didn't want to spend all week with the boys but expected me to tag along and be happy with his choice of where we would go etc.I

frustratedashell Sat 28-Sep-13 02:55:49

Weekend not week! I still love him but am not prepared to be treated like that. It's a shame cos in many other ways he was great.
Going to take stock and think about what I want to do next. May have a short break somewhere.
Haven't unpacked yet. Will spend the weekend doing that.
Have had a few hours sleep. Better than I've slept for a while. Thanks for the support ladies.

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