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irresponsible DP, or am I overreacting

(53 Posts)
Blossomflowers Thu 26-Sep-13 09:02:01

Want some impartial advice please. DP took DS 13 fishing on Sunday to the coast, no problem there happy they were having some time together, DP said they would be back around 8 - 9, which again fine, reminded DP that not too late as it is a school night. So tried to call him early evening to see how they were getting on but phone not picking up, eventually managed to get DS who said there was a big problem as they were cut off by the tide and would have to wait it out. I was furious and worried, DP is very familiar with the tides there so no excuse. Anyway roll on 12.45 they rock up. He thinks I am being unreasonable and kill joy, apparently I ruined the whole day because he "knew I would be cross" So am I overreacting? Other than saying that when he got back how irresponsible I thought he was on Sunday this has not been mentioned until last night. We had a huge row, he slept on the sofa last night and left this morning without saying good anything.

queenbitchapparently Fri 27-Sep-13 11:05:11

I missed the drunken rant bit sorry, that smacks of unreasolved issues.
If you were still visably angry about it and he was sulking about it that will create an atmosphere.
Best to get it all out in the open and move on.

Blossomflowers Fri 27-Sep-13 11:17:54

queen the drunken rant thing is separate issue really, something that he needs to stop doing. Like I said earlier in the thread, I was not sulking or angry about the fishing episode I had not mentioned it once since. He was obviously feeling guilty. I am still very disappointed that he could be so stupid but hope it will not happen again.

str8tothepoint Fri 27-Sep-13 15:37:07

He is the child's father, he is responsible enough, back off him and let him be a parent. You weren't there he was why would he intentionally put danger to his child. Get over it

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