I left my partner at the beginning of the year. Recently I have been having doubts about us getting back together (he wants to, I have said no so far). Sometimes I do consider giving him another chance but my head just screams NO!! I'm pretty sure he was emotionally abusive but I just keep doubting myself.
So, I find myself here to ask you to knock some sense into me before I let him in too much and get back with him. These are the kinds of things he done to me in our time together (these just a few examples of things that happened, I'd need a goof few hours ro explain fully).
Left me crying and alone with a 6wo, colicky baby to go out drinking with his pals, I'd been up since 4am. He went out at least twice a week and I was left home alone.
He went out xmas eve, again drinking with his pals (there's a theme here) and left me sitting alone. He refused to get up and watch ds open his presents as he did't get in till 3am.
New Year he didn't come home till 6am.
When he had been out drinking he would come home and either try to force himself on me or wake me up and shout at me for no reason, he would be really angry.
Tell me he didn't fancy/love me anymore, then retract the statement.
I caught him messaging about 4 other girls, he has never admitted to cheating. They were not innocent texts.
He never gave me money for any food/nappies etc that I bought despite us splitting ALL bills 50/50 and him earning double what I did.
The night my DGran died he was at work. I text him to tell him (it wasn't a shock, we knew she was going soon) I didn't even get a text back to ask if I was ok.
Constantly telling me I was crazy and needed professional help when I tried to talk about our issues.
Since I left he has been at me with the "I've realised what I have done and I've changed". I really hope he has, I'd hate for another girl to go through what I did. Please tell me that I am right in not going back. I know I am really but I cannot stop the urge to go back and please him. I'm terrified of being the way I was. Before him I was a strong person but I've changed since him, slowing getting back on track.
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please stop me from getting back with my ex.
nc990 · 23/09/2013 21:22
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