On saturday night me, my DP and our 2 year DD old went to our friends for dinner and drinks, we planned to stay overnight so we can drive home in the morning, they have 2 DDs and we always have a good night when we see them!
This saturday after the girls were in bed and we were sitting at the kitchen table, we ran out of booze! There was a beer festival down the road so the husband offered to go get some more, he asked his OH and my OH but they couldnt be bothered so i said id go! So off we went! We were about 20 mins. We came back to them both topless at the kitchen table, she was covered with a cushion and apparently they were playing strip poker, i kicked off a bit and said well why would u do that?! If you wanted to play why wait until your alone! I dont think they were up to anything but i think its totally inappropriate! I wouldn't play anyway by the way but thats not the point.
Her OH didnt make a fuss at all! So i just sort of carried on the night, i forgot about it until this morning and now im really angry! How disrespectful of my feelings and how could he think that was ok!
Im sure they were just having a laugh but if that happens when im bloody there what happens when he goes out without me!!
Sorry its long, just needed to rant!! Hes at work so im stewing and thinking off what to say, how would you feel in my shoes?
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AyeAyeCaptainMummy · 23/09/2013 12:34
I would think that she was the instigator of the game and she wanted to play(and lose) so she could show him her 'assets'.
He didnt refuse as he probably didnt think it would get that far before you came back.
She probably does this sort of thing all the time with unsuspecting males she takes a fancy to. Her DHs lack of response indicates no surprise to me. Maybe "oh we have run out of booze" was a ploy to get you out of the house so she could have her wicked way with him 
Next time don't leave them on their own together.
Maybe it's time to tone down the staying up all night getting shitfaced with friends.
Now that you have three DD between you 
You weren't shitfaced, but you forgot that you caught them topless and kicked off a bit, until this morning?
Oh my goodness - how would I feel? Well after picking myself off the floor, probably launching myself at the topless 'friend' and then frogmarching my H out of the house, I would feel like my world had been turned upside down by the person I thought I could trust 100%.
I am amazed that you managed to 'carry on the night'. I certainly wouldn't have done. Your powers of self control and trust in your H are astonishing - seriously. What did your 'friend' say when you walked in? And wasn't your H terrified of what you'd think? 
Ayeaye then if your H knows you're insecure he's being a double-arse for being so insensitive to your feelings.
Unless this woman overpowered him, tied him to a chair then decided to wobble her flobs at him against his will, he has no excuse for what happened IMO.
You don't have to accept this kind of behaviour you know - I'm not saying 'leave the bastard' - just that you need to not let it go this time. Make sure he realises how upset you are and that he's got a lot of making up to do. And find a new friend because this woman isn't one.
And you could also ask him how he would feel to walk in on you flashing your boobs to one of his friends 
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Strip poker - really?
Just between two - really?
On their own, without a motive - really?
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