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Husband grumpy with me.

(59 Posts)
KiteSurfer Fri 13-Sep-13 15:39:45

Last night we were going to the cinema, I got changed but didn't make a special effort as to me it was just a film & not a big night out, iyswim.
H got in a massive strop 'cause I'd apparently spent 1hr 45mins the night before to go to a work meeting with my work colleagues.
Now he's right, I did take that long - because I washed my hair (needed doing) & so last night when I was going out with him, it didn't need doing.

He says I didn't want to go out with him (we rarely go out, something I'm trying to remedy), by the way I made such little effort!

Is he crazy or what?

Offred Sat 14-Sep-13 07:30:28

Agree with allthreeways I am in the process of leaving a husband I don't love. You very quickly see the light at the end of the tunnel when you look into things.

Chubfuddler Sat 14-Sep-13 07:58:46

Oh leave him. Seriously you're both miserable, neither of you love each other and you're both resentful and bitter.

The children will be fine, pride is a fucking stupid reason to waste your life and money schmoney.

Don't stay together out of pride for goodness sake. There are not prizes awarded for martyring yourself in such a manner and the three factors you cited for staying are not good enough.

Your children won't thank you either for a) staying with him and b) both of you showing them a completely messed up version of how a relationship works, or in this case doesn't. Is this really what you want to teach them about relationships?.

janajos Sat 14-Sep-13 10:41:19

'Who on earth wears the same pair of socks & undies all week but has a shower every day??'

My DH! I always tell him I will know when he is having an affair, because the underwear will be changed more regularly!

KiteSurfer Sat 14-Sep-13 11:50:59

janajos - does he really?

I've never known anyone do this; I know of people who wear same stuff for days on end and not bathe/shower (yuk!) but they always put clean ones on after a shower.

It is odd behaviour, I think.

Hawkmoth Sat 14-Sep-13 11:58:36

But... What about poo crumbs???

KiteSurfer Sat 14-Sep-13 18:34:55

Bleurgghh Hawkmoth!

No wonder I won't share bodyparts with him! Just can't get through to him what a turnoff it is. He's not dim, just very, very stubborn.

MariaLuna Sat 14-Sep-13 19:38:51

So you say he's got a high IQ.

Doesn't sound like he has much EQ though...

He controls your time getting ready to go out (and finds you wanting) and ewwww, wears his crummy underwear for a whole week.

Both of those would be enough for me to LTB.

Oh, and don't fuss what other people think. Most are too wrapped up in their own stuff anyway.

Don't sacrifice your happiness on what the rest of the world might think.
Life's too short.

Jux Sat 14-Sep-13 19:39:05

Well, at some point he'll be being very stubborn on his own I hope.

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