Ok, here goes. My younger sister (40) has been a binge drinker ever since her teens. About 7 years ago it cost her her job, her lover and her life in London and she came down South and moved back home with my mother in a small village. She dried out for 5 years, over which time my mother developed serious cardiac problems and has undergone several major operations. She now has very poor health and is not expected to live for too long. My sister gradually took over the running of the house, saying she was my mums carer, but also started to drink again. This worsened to the point where she was having blackouts, screaming rages and very hostile even when 'sober'. For the last 10 months or so it has been like living on a knife edge for the rest of the family and noone could get near my mum. Finally my mum was rushed into hospital in May, and when she came out was very poorly, and so my other sister and I brought here here, to my house where she has been recovering ever since. She has got much stronger since living here, but wants to return to her own home, but cannot live with my sister as an alcoholic. My sister hit the roof when she found out what I had done, and then proceeded to appear to have a nervouse breakdown, and cried for a week (while drinking about 180 units). I got her to her GP who says she's an alcoholic, I got her to go for an assessment at the Priory, which said she was an alcoholic and needs 28 days detox urgently, and she says she's not going there. She says that she 'is trying to deal with it' and that she 'is trying' to contact AA. She was blind drunk on Sunday, Monday and now tonight. She has started inviting almost complete strangers into my mums house 'to talk'. She has gone around most of the village saying that it is looking after my mum which has caused this, and my mum is distraught that her neighbours should think its her fault. The worst thing is she is in denial about the extent of her drink problem and she doesn't appear to have much inclination to really access help. How much worse can this get? How do you deal with an alcoholic relative? I really really need some advice! Thanks
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Callmemadam · 20/06/2006 21:16
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