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Bad enough to leave?

(22 Posts)
AnyFucker Mon 09-Sep-13 08:41:48

Jag is all over the board posting provocative shit

Did you report Jagdkuh or are you just breaking the Talk Guidelines for fun?

Jagdkuh Mon 09-Sep-13 00:03:51

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epic78 Sun 08-Sep-13 22:49:55

Watch out for google search history too op. I went into google on my tablet and it came up with searches (d) h did on his tablet.

Does anyone know where that thread about deleting your history was? In Site Stuff, maybe?

MissMuesli Sat 07-Sep-13 20:56:26

Please be careful OP, make sure you are browsing safely and make sure you log out or delete netmums from the history each time.

WafflyVersatile Sat 07-Sep-13 20:55:50

I'd give Women's Aid a call when you have the chance.

Also I'd recommend you use private browsing delete mumsnet from browsing history and don't save passwords and log off of things etc etc. in case he goes snooping.

scallopsrgreat Sat 07-Sep-13 20:50:24

Me too MrsTerryPratchett. Not good OP. I hope you are OK. It sounds like is financially controlling there and possibly not stopping there with his controlling behaviour sad

ImperialBlether Sat 07-Sep-13 20:50:10

Awful. Really awful. Do you have to buy your own clothes out of that? Are your clothes a lot cheaper than his? Does he have a lot more treats than you?

He's now asking what I'm typing - back later. That alone makes me worry for you.

nickelbabe Sat 07-Sep-13 20:43:52

bloody hell.
I work and see no income (self employed failing business) and I spend more than £100 a month on essentials. spending money.

have you dcs? wherevdoes tgeir money come from
?

what abbout groceries etc? do you have to ask for that? and housekeeping?

Hissy Sat 07-Sep-13 20:39:24

You need CAB advice, work out what your entitlements are, and you need to get guidance on likely CSA suggestions for how much he'd be liable to pay you for maintenance.

I bet you are broke all the time eh? £100 won't go far if petrol's in thé equation.

JoinYourPlayfellows Sat 07-Sep-13 20:34:07

It's definitely financial abuse.

He is using your tax free allowance to take money out of his business, but don't see a penny of it?

I'm not sure that's even legal.

He wanted you to live on £50 a month while he had over £4000?

He's treating you as a pet.

Handywoman Sat 07-Sep-13 20:27:19

Yes this sounds to me like financial abuse, so sorry. And if you have just scuttled away from the computer due to his questioning then he also sounds emotionally abusive. Please call Women's Aid ASAP (Monday when he's at work?).

NomNomDePlum Sat 07-Sep-13 20:26:10

well he sounds quite bad, but even if he was all sweetness and light, the only reason you need to leave is the wish to. i appreciate that life is more complicated than that, of course - he sounds tight and interfering though, at least.

if you do leave, you should make plans to do so with minimal support from him, since he can't bring himself to be generous to you while you are supposedly the person he loves most. he will be worse when he has license to hate you. i know that's blunt, but you do need to get yourself sorted out as best you can before you go - get copies of as much paperwork as possible, and get financial advice.

whathappensnext2013 Sat 07-Sep-13 20:10:08

He's now asking what I'm typing - back later.

whathappensnext2013 Sat 07-Sep-13 20:09:29

That's exactly it epic sad

whathappensnext2013 Sat 07-Sep-13 20:08:39

Financially - after tax, he earns just over 4k pm. Plus uses my tax allowance (am SAHM), to take another £650 pm out of his business accounts (I don't see this money). I get an 'allowance' of £100 pm - to include petrol, mobile phone and day to day things (coffee in town/car parking etc). He thinks that is generous - was originally going to be £50. Anything else I have to ask for.

epic78 Sat 07-Sep-13 20:07:20

I think i am in a similar situation. Lots of little things have happened. Sometimes i wish he would make the decision for me and leave.

Hissy Sat 07-Sep-13 19:57:56

Call woman's aid for RL conversation, describe your life to them and see what they say.

Do you want to talk to us about it?

Handywoman Sat 07-Sep-13 19:56:50

Poor you, tell us a bit about what's going on, whathappensnext2013?

whathappensnext2013 Sat 07-Sep-13 19:53:57

Help please sad

Think 'D'P is emotionally and financially abusive - no idea what to do. I think I want to get out, but I'm scared I'm blowing everything out of proportion...

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