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Is this pic strange?

(142 Posts)
wherewouldyoulive Sun 01-Sep-13 13:06:45

Many years ago, after I first met my husband he went holiday to Ibiza with a group of friends. One of the pics taken at that time was with his female hometown friend and he was standing with her puting his hand on her waist. Is this anything strange?

AnyFucker Germany Sun 01-Sep-13 13:09:49

confused

candyflossisevil Sun 01-Sep-13 13:12:21

Why do u care if it was years ago?

Tailz Sun 01-Sep-13 13:12:48

confused!?!

Gruntfuttock Sun 01-Sep-13 13:14:34

Why on earth are you wondering about this now?

wherewouldyoulive Sun 01-Sep-13 13:16:31

Just wanted to know if this is acceptable as a common sense.

AnyFucker Germany Sun 01-Sep-13 13:18:14

double confused

He had his hand on her waist?!

What wouldn't be alright about that?!

Vatta Sun 01-Sep-13 13:18:49

Yes I think it's acceptable for a man to put his arm around the waist of a woman other than his wife. Is that what you're asking? Not sure I understand the issue?

str8tothepoint Sun 01-Sep-13 13:19:02

seems like someone is looking for evidence of wrong doings, either to get attention or to split, is your relationship really that bad you have to look at pictures from years ago

Rooners Sun 01-Sep-13 13:19:51

It could be totally innocent or it could mean he was involved with her on some level other than simply being friends.

Wecan't tell and neither can you from a photograph. Are you worried?

ImATotJeSuisUneTot Sun 01-Sep-13 13:20:10

They're all huddled on for the photo, surely. Not that it would be strange anyway?

mynameisslimshady Sun 01-Sep-13 13:20:28

Every time someone takes a photo of me and someone I put my arm around them whether its a family member or friend. Perfectly normal imo.

IKnewHouseworkWasDangerous Sun 01-Sep-13 13:20:47

It would depend on pose, context, position all sorts of things. On its own is it an issue NO. But I suspect there is more here than this question alone

WafflyVersatile Sun 01-Sep-13 13:21:36

This is what people do when posing for photos with friends.

AnyFucker Germany Sun 01-Sep-13 13:23:10

Does he have his other hand inside her bra ?

piratecat Sun 01-Sep-13 13:24:41

only if they are naked

IKnewHouseworkWasDangerous Sun 01-Sep-13 13:26:48

Oh and there are countless photos of me with other men with an arm around me (other than my husband) None of whom have I had, or have I wanted to have, any kind of sexual contact with.

wherewouldyoulive Sun 01-Sep-13 13:28:22

No.

I asked him if he has ever been a bf of her or dated her and he said no.

WafflyVersatile Sun 01-Sep-13 13:29:16

So is there something else going on?

wherewouldyoulive Sun 01-Sep-13 13:30:05

Nothing else going on

AcaciaRoad Sun 01-Sep-13 13:32:47

No I don't think this is strange at all.

AnyFucker Germany Sun 01-Sep-13 13:34:45

There is something strange going on here, and that is all the posts by OP so far

AnyFucker Germany Sun 01-Sep-13 13:36:03

OP...are you from a culture where men are not allowed to touch anyone other than their wives or close female relatives ?

Hassled Sun 01-Sep-13 13:36:28

You're overthinking this, which makes me wonder if there is actually a back story of you having assorted suspicions and this is the one tangible thing you can actually hang your suspicions on? What else is on your mind?

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