I should say I don't actually believe in 'the one', but there are people we would want to marry/have kids with and people we would not.
I am approaching 30 and have been dating a lovely man for about six months. We have fun, I'm happy, but I know I don't want a future with him. There are reasons but I don't feel the need to unpick them here, as to me they are valid, and when you know, you know IYSWIM.
My question is, how long should I allow a relationship that makes me happy to continue, if I'm potentially missing out on locking down something long term? I frequently read posts on here by women who say that dating/meeting someone just gets harder and harder the older you get. I sometimes worry that I'm fundamentally immature and turning a blind eye to the fact that everyone around me is getting married etc. Should I continue with something that makes me happy until it naturally tails off, or do I need to be a bit more ruthless about finding someone I do feel a future with? This isn't really a biological clock issue as I absolutely don't want kids now, but I think I do one day.
I should add that he's never seemed fussed about marriage/babies etc so I don't feel I'm wasting his time at the moment.
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How serious would you tell your 30 year old self to be about finding 'the one'?
Lastgasp · 31/08/2013 12:05
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