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It's my 11th wedding anniversary tomorrow and we've just had a row and he said 'cancel the booking' I'm not going out with you tomorrow night

(33 Posts)
Sarahlundismyhero Fri 30-Aug-13 20:01:12

He was pissed off that he'd come home and there was no beer and crisps in for his Friday night, Friday is my day off so I guess he expects me to get this sort if stuff in- I didn't this time as I didn't really think about it- I'd gone out of my way to pick up his 'urgent' prescription for ad ... And told him this.
Sometimes I really hate hate hate being with him and the way we argue. Not sure whether he means our anniversary is 'off' now
Sorry for waffling....not sure what to do- my 2 oldest ds sorta heard the argument and came in to give me a it hug and saw me crying afterwards - ...

Sarahlundismyhero Fri 30-Aug-13 21:09:28

I agree- I think beer doesn't help his annoyed attitude- he'd been on a train from Waterloo for an hour home with 2 beers already before he walked in the door to find there were no more beers! The gall .. Then he moaned I was sitting around having a g&t and not giving a shit about him- I've had the 3 boys all day .angryangryangryangry

Sarahlundismyhero Fri 30-Aug-13 21:10:44

I would like to shag Harvey Keitel in the Piano though - at least some good has come of this wine

Sarahlundismyhero Fri 30-Aug-13 21:12:17

Cremola- I think your advice is great x

ImperialBlether Fri 30-Aug-13 21:49:21

Can he get to the shop? If he can why doesn't he?

Sarahlundismyhero Fri 30-Aug-13 21:50:41

Yes we have a waitrose round the corner - and he did- much to his annoyance that he had to go out again- ffs he is a child sometimes I am realising that -

ImperialBlether Fri 30-Aug-13 21:59:13

Round the corner! What an idiot he is. Having said that it is nice to think that somebody thinking of you in the day while you're at work. I can sort of understand why he was disappointed but he's a complete idiot for not just going himself

yellowballoons Fri 30-Aug-13 22:06:33

ok. I am going to go out on a limb and probably get flamed.
Some rows have patterns. Tired hungry and friday nights are not a great mix.
Nor are anticipations of big events sometimes.

Tomorrow's event may still happen. Or it may not. Depends how fast you pair are at making up.

He is also stressed at work and having anxiety attacks. Perhaps let him off tonight's tantrum?

Too much drinking isnt going to help him. Sounds like that is becoming his coping mechanism.
That talk may be best to wait for at least next week.

[I realise this may not be how others might play it. But I would cut him some slack for a few days]

Sarahlundismyhero Fri 30-Aug-13 22:28:39

Yellow- you talk a lot of sense- I appreciate your thought and all ur replies - am staggered by the great response .. Thank you all.

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