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My insecurity is killing our relationship. Is there any hope?

(27 Posts)
NishiNoUsagi Thu 29-Aug-13 22:19:16

Just that really sad

I don't know how it has got this bad.
DH lies a lot, but not about anything that really "matters", if that makes sense, although it still bloody hurts. I want to trust him again somehow but I find that now I can't believe a word he says.

He's trying, but he's struggling with it, probably as I over react to everything. So he lies to me so I don't over react, then I find out about it and feel like I can't trust him, and so on and so on.

He has lied about various things since the start of our marriage, and I've tried to hard to let them go but seem to be getting more and more insecure. He has no idea how to help me (no emotional intelligence whatsoever, can't empathise with how I might feel when lied to etc)

I'm turning into a monster. Have been crying so much this week, triggered by various arguments. I feel broken, but I don't feel like any of this is LTB territory. Although I think he would be better off if I left him as I feel so unstable.

Not really sure what I'm asking, maybe just a hand-hold? Grateful for any opinions though.

MadBusLady Fri 30-Aug-13 13:43:54

Have some counceling as to why you are like this and how a healthy relationship can be maintained.

Load of victim-blaming bullshit. If my husband took another woman out to dinner and lied about it I'd be "like that" too.

CailinDana Fri 30-Aug-13 15:06:41

Why did he lie about working overtime when he was actually socialising?

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