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IronCurtain Mon 26-Aug-13 21:35:36

I really need some help...

I have just told DH of two years (7 together) I want to break up. He's had an EA lasting at least 6 months for which he's still not accepted any responsibility. Despite the daily texts and phone calls, the ten texts in one single night, the lies about me being a crazy and paranoid wife, somehow I still feel shit.

I have an amazingly supportive family and group of friends ( planning to move in with one of them tomorrow morning). But I am still wrecked with guilt as on paper we are the perfect couple. All of our friends looked up to us. But going into detail, he's been SO passive and took me for granted for a long time. I, apparently, am a selfish bitch for 'throwing it all away because I felt neglected for a few months'.

A few weeks ago I decided my new mantra will be 'I deserve to be happy'. I am only 27, no DC involved, am very successful professionally and I know I'll be happier on my own. Why am I still wavering despite all the lies and the deceit?

Long term lurker, my first ever thread. Appologies for any grammar & spelling mistakes, English is my second language and I'm typing on iPhone. I guess I am just looking for validation that leaving an unhappy relationship is OK and that putting up with insults and criticism constantly is not. And, since I am a perfectionist, that one failed relationship is not the end of the world.

Thank you for making it so far...

Leavenheath Mon 26-Aug-13 23:29:31

If ever there was a cut-and-dried unaimous thread, it's this one.

Don't even give it a second thought.

He cheated mainly because he could and because he got the opportunity. Nothing to do with you or him feeling 'neglected'. He's not in the least bit sorry and is trying to blame everyone but himself.

At some point, he'll probably blame his mother too. wink

Good luck and rehearse your parting speech. Make it magnificent and withering!

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